Showing posts with label Anger. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Anger. Show all posts

Friday, October 15, 2021

Angry? – Doesn’t “It Take Two to Make a Thing Go Right"? - Purity 550

 Angry? – Doesn’t “It Take Two to Make a Thing Go Right?” - Purity 550 

Purity 550 10/15/2021   Purity 550 Podcast

Good morning

Today’s photo of Cave Run Lake in Salt Lick Kentucky comes to us from a friend who retired and left the Empire State behind but who still enjoys going out to see, and who likes to share, the wonders of God’s creation and the peaceful easy felling that one can experience in the stillness that God makes available to those who seek it.   My friend shared two photos from their visit to Cave Run Lake and while both were of the same scene they each had their own appeal, and I was challenged to decide which one to share. So don’t be surprised if we should suddenly visit Cave Run Lake again in the days ahead to show the photo not seen, but I decided to share this one because of the reflection of the sun in the water and I like that little “bansai-esque” tree/bush that is in the left foreground near the lake’s shore.  Little things can mean a lot I guess and sometimes it’s the small details in the big picture that make us feel a sense of peace and wonder that reminds us that we are not alone.

Yesterday, I shared a testimony of a friend’s simple encouragement and how it motivated me to choose to an activity that would lead to delayed peace and contribute to one of my goals rather than taking some free time and using it for purposeless self-indulgence that would give some immediate relaxation but would leave things undone and possibly create a future crisis.   In examining that friendly advice and the implications we could draw from it; I discussed the effect that “enablers” could have on our lives and how they could knowingly or unknowingly contribute to our worst tendencies and keep us locked in reactive patterns that would hinder attaining our goals.  The discourse apparently struck a chord with one FB friend because I got an “angry” face emoji response!

Now I have not interviewed the friend, but I know some of their life history and I know they were in at least one relationship that could have been described as codependent because it was marked by episodes of peace and harmony and episodes of anger and strife as addiction was a central theme to their relationship. 

So while my friend could have felt moved to “angry face” emoji my post because they didn’t like the photo of the day, I am assuming that my descriptions of how “enablers” cause us harm while claiming to love us, stirred up some old memories of those “good old – bad old days” for my friend or caused them to be “angry” for me after hearing about how I too had suffered in relationships with enablers. 

In this culture of fear of causing offense, I could have been filled with worry that I had offended my friend, but when you know the person and their story, you can see that the “anger” they are responding with isn’t directed at you and isn’t necessarily a “bad thing”.  

I’m guessing of course, but my friend wasn’t angry at me. They were angry at the pain and suffering that people can put each other through.  

While we can be angry and wonder why “people” have to be this way. I would point out that the fault doesn’t necessarily lie with just one side of a codependent relationship.  

The problem with the addictive/codependent relationship is that one party or both parties, are addicted to a substance or activity and the other, or both parties, are “addicted” to the other person.    

One party is seeking pleasure in a thing and the other person is seeking pleasure in a person. If you can’t see it, they are both wrong.   A study of the scriptures and an examination of the factors at play here would indicate that they are both “worshipping idols” instead of God.    That’s why even though a new covenant was being established with the incarnation and earthly ministry of Jesus,  Christ reminded His disciples that the first commandment was still to “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind”.  

So any relationship between two people, no matter how troubled or peaceful, can only be truly peaceful when both parties are seeking to honor Jesus’ great commandment to love God. When God is at the center of a relationships both parties will live according to His guidance and seek to love, honor, and obey one another with the emphasis doing God’s will for their lives which would include loving and serving one another.  In this scenario the love of God can flow in a circle, where the people send their love to the Lord in worship, receive from Him, and express to one another continually.   Instead of being stuck in reactive patterns where there is an imbalance because one party is putting their needs above another, when God is involved the couple’s focus is on serving Him and the other rather than serving themselves individually.

That’s the way it “should be” and my friend’s “angry emoji” reveals that, while they may or may not realize how important our relationship with God is to our personal sense of peace and purpose, they know that the enabler/codependent dysfunctional relationship isn’t “right”. Thoughts about their experiences in a codependent relationship made them angry, or the realization that I had also suffered in a similar situation made them “angry” for me.  

God gave us our emotions to show us that something was not “right”.  Anger shows us that one of our “goals was blocked”.  The “goal that is blocked” by codependency is a peaceful harmonious relationship.  

While Rob Base rapped about how “it takes two to make a thing go right”, his lyrics were rather self-aggrandizing, and he didn’t really tell us much about having a successful personal relationship.  

Unfortunately, because we can’t make someone “do what we want, all the time” or make them “love God to love me”, the goal to have a “happy relationship” is beyond our individual control.  We can only control our side of the fence and be true to the goal of “being the person that God made me to be”. 

So in our pursuits to find a peaceful committed relationship, we should seek a life partner who is committed to seeking the Lord and being the person that God made them to be.

If its’s “too late” and you are in relationship with someone’s whose focus is not on the things or God, your personal goal to be the “person that God wants you to be” becomes even more important.  God wants you to be forgiving and loving. Your partner without God needs that in their life and your commitment to be the person God wants you to be may have a tremendous impact on your partner and cause them to seek the Lord and be changed by Him.

 While I am not advising to stay in an abusive relationship, when we are committed to some one we take the good with the bad and if the love is real we will work together to overcome problems and disagreements to establish a relationship of peace and love that lasts a lifetime.

But when things aren’t right, get “angry” that things are not going according to God’s design, and get help to institute measures of protection and accountability to break the patterns of dysfunction and to establish a relationship of mutual love and respect with God at the center or to find peace by “setting the captives free”. 

God doesn’t want us to suffer in what are supposed to be “love relationships”.  So keep walking and talking with God, He will give you the wisdom and strength to correct all the problems of your life, but you have to take you, or whoever or whatever you are worshipping, off of that pedestal and recognize His way as the way that is right and that He is the only One worthy of worship.  

When you surrender to the Lord, He may ask you to change the way you think and He may ask you to let go of some baggage that you didn’t think you could live without, but even though there may be a period of adjustment, when you walk with the Lord you realize that burdens disappear and the path He sets you on leads to increasing peace, love, and joy.


Today’s Bible verse is drawn from “The NLT Bible Promise Book for Men”.  

This morning’s meditation verse is:

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NLT2)
9  Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed.
10  If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.
11  Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone?
12  A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.

Today’s verse reminds us that we need not be alone in this world and that a companion and friends are a good thing to have for our journey of faith.  

Our loved ones and friend can help us succeed and they can help us in times of trouble. The confines of a committed relationship and the fellowship of the saints offer warmth and protection.    

As I stated above, the important factor of our relationships with one another is the presence of God in them. When all parties are in agreement with the Lord and seeking to do His will for their lives, harmony and peace can be the result. 

Peace with God through faith in Jesus Christ should be the prerequisite for all relationships because it is only when we find the new life that God gives us through our Savior that we can be complete. 

Only the Lord can fill the “God shaped hole” in our lives and when He does we can give all of ourselves to the purpose of loving others and sharing the love of God. To give we must receive. To love we must know what love is.

But today’s verses tell us that we are not just to bask in the love of God by ourselves. We are share the love of God with others.  

I have recently become engaged to be married and these verses today come to us from a book that my fiancĂ© gave me and quite frankly when I saw what verses came next in the book and contemplated the fact that I was going to be reunited with her later today, they really ripped my heart out.  

We have both suffered in our lives and God has brought us together to help each other succeed, to help each other in times of trouble, to keep each other warm, and to love one another. God is at the center of our relationship and while we often praise one another, we invariably remind one another that is the only One worthy to be praised.

So take the love that God has given you and take some time this weekend to share it with your friends, family, other saints, or your life partner.  Two are better than one, but we are only made complete through having faith in the Son.


As always, I invite all to go to where I always share insights from prominent Christian counselors to assist my brothers and sisters in Christ with their walk. 


Today we continue sharing from June Hunt’s Dating: Secrets to Great Relating When Dating  


As always, I share this information for educational purposes and encourage all to purchase June Hunt’s books for your own private study and to support her work. If you need this title you can find it online at several sites for less than $5.00:

B. What Are the Differences Between Worldly Dating and Godly Courtship?

Josh has done both. He has dated and doesn't want to do it again until he's ready for a serious relationship—until he's ready for marriage. After breaking his girlfriend's heart, he decides dating—even so-called Christian dating—isn't for him. Hearts are too fragile and a relationship should be more about how long to make it last and how deep it can go than how far you can get and what you can take from another person.

People think he's crazy, but he's determined to do things God's way. He'd rather work on getting his own life together than mess up someone else's. He finds great joy and fulfillment in living his life to give God glory and serve others. Shifting his focus to pleasing God and blessing others rewards him with true peace and pure joy. Josh discovers the richness of relationships when he prioritizes giving rather than receiving.

"This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another." (1 John 4:10-11)

Worldly Dating vs. Godly Courtship

Worldly Dating

Godly Courtship

• Focuses on finding the "right" person

• Focuses on being the "right" person

• Begins with romantic attraction

• Begins with common values and interests

• Pursues pleasure as the ultimate goal

• Pursues marriage as the ultimate goal

• Driven by feelings and impulses

• Driven by rational, long-term objectives

• Values experience more than maturity

• Values maturity more than experience

• Expects sexual involvement

• Respects sex as sacred; purity is paramount

• Relies only on self

• Relies on wise counsel and accountability

• Discontent without a love interest

• Content with the love of Christ

• Evaluates others in artificial environments

• Learns who others are in real-life situations

• Accepts flirting as a means to an end

• Rejects flirting as a hurtful habit

• Prioritizes pleasing self

• Prioritizes pleasing the Lord

• Relies on relationships to find purpose

• Relies on God to give purpose

• Takes from others out of emptiness

• Gives to others out of spiritual fullness

"Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart." (2 Timothy 2:22)

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Monday, March 15, 2021

Purity 366: Encouragement for the Path of Christian Discipleship

Purity 366 03/15/2021  Purity 366 Podcast

Good morning.

Today’s ocean view comes from a friend who visited Gasparilla Beach in Boca Grande, Florida.  I love the clear blue sky, the blue green water, and even the rocky shore that was captured here.  

As we face a new work week, you may feel like you are headed towards some rocky ground and just want to go back to bed! It’s 18 degrees in my neck of the woods in upstate New York and I can sympathize.

However, I believe Jay E. Adams said, that Jesus didn’t focus on His feelings. He focused on His responsibilities. It’s a pithy statement but its good advice. Our work provides us with the means to provide for our families and is actually a blessing. Many in our country are out of work and desperately looking for the blessing that we disparage.  I pray for those who are out of work to find it.

So yes, the weekend has ended and yes, we must go back to work, but it need not be perceived as drudgery.  Instead of focusing on the rocky ground focus on the benefits of walking over that ground and not only arriving at that beach that lies just beyond but arriving there knowing that you met your responsibilities, provided for your family, and have a blessing that will allow you more fully enjoy your life.      

God has provided you with the ability to work and thus has given you everything you have.  So while at work, share the hope that you have in Christ, if not with your words than through your performance.  Colossians 3:23 says:

Colossians 3:23 (NKJV)
23 And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men,

Remember wherever you work, we all will answer to God someday.  So let go of any negative feelings about work with an attitude of gratitude and by facing the day with the enthusiasm of one who knows that you really have nothing to worry about because the God of all creation loves you and will provide for you in this world and into eternity, 

So keep walking and talking with God. Regardless of what the day holds, we can receive the strength and guidance we need when we remain in His presence. 

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This morning’s meditation verse is:

Hebrews 4:16 (NKJV)
16 Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

Today’s verse really speaks of our relationship with God through our faith in Jesus Christ and how we are given full access to Him because we have been adopted into His royal family.  We have the intimacy of a Father – Child relationship with God now and we can come to Him directly to receive mercy and grace in times of need.  

So we can pray to God the Father Himself.  We need not pray to the Mary or any of the other departed saints to gain God’s ear or favor. Our relationship with our heavenly Father is not like a dysfunctional earthly family where you have to ask the mother or one of your sisters or brothers to make your requests known to the father so you will receive. 

The fear in that earthly dysfunctional family is that if you yourself ask the father for something, he will reject you out of hand or you will not be able to adequately express your needs to gain approval.   The idea is that your “intercessor” – your mother or brother or sister – has a better relationship with the father and they will use their good relationship to help you get what you need.   Unfortunately, earthly families are not perfect, and these scenarios may actually be wise to use. 

However, these intercessory scenarios do not apply to the kingdom of God.  God is no respecter of persons. That’s means that all His redeemed children are on the same level in terms of His love and accessibility.  While we may differ in levels of faith and may receive different gifts and rewards from the Father in eternity, we all have the same access to the Father.  He hears our prayers. 

So if you are praying to Mary or the saints, it’s time to claim your adoption as a son or daughter of the King and boldly approach the throne of grace.   Our walk is not a religion with rules to gain favor. Our walk is an intimate relationship.  God doesn’t want you going through someone else to talk to Him. 

Your heavenly Father has perfect knowledge of you; and He loves you regardless of your performance.  He doesn’t want anything to get in between you and Him and neither should you. 

I invite all to where I always share insights from prominent Christian counselors to assist my brothers and sisters in Christ with their walk. 


Today we will share from Dr. June Hunt’s Biblical Counseling Keys on “Anger: Facing the Fire Within”

As always, I share this information for educational purposes and encourage all to purchase Dr. Hunt’s books for your own private study and to support her work:

L. How to Accept God's Aim for Anger

Forest rangers who care for and protect national parks occasionally say they have to "start a fire to stop a fire." Known as backfires, these fires help deprive the main fire of fuel and better enable forest rangers and firefighters to contain the blaze. At times God works for your good in much the same way. Ephesians 4:26 (ESV) says, "Be angry and do not sin."

God clearly intends for you to experience the emotion of anger and to use it for some positive purpose. For example, He can use your anger to spark your awareness of a blazing spiritual problem that needs to be snuffed out. God often allows fiery trials to test your faith and to develop the perseverance necessary to sustain your faith....

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance." (James 1:2-3)

As you seek to allow God to direct your anger and use it for His purposes, remember...

  • Anger can bring your true feelings to light.
  • Anger can uncover your need to set healthy boundaries.
  • Anger can be used to bring positive change in your life.
  • Anger can be the lens through which you gain insight into your past hurts.
  • Anger can be the spark that encourages healthy, appropriate, honest communication in relationships.
  • Anger can be used by God to convict others of sin.
  • Anger can reveal your inappropriate ways of trying to meet your own needs.
  • Anger can be used by God to motivate others to make responsible decisions.
  • Anger can be the foundation on which forgiveness is built.
  • Anger can help you realize your need for the Lord.

As you allow God to use your anger for good, you will become an example to others and bring praise to God....

"Let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven." (Matthew 5:16)

When you feel angry about an issue if you can, change it—if you can't, release it.

Release it into the hands of your sovereign Savior!

—June Hunt

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Saturday, March 13, 2021

Purity 365: Encouragement for the Path of Christian Discipleship

Purity 365 03/13/2021 Purity 365 Podcast

Good morning.

Today’s photo of a red, blue, and yellow sunset sky comes from a friend in Huntington Beach, California who captioned it: “Sun going down on the week.”  That’s right it’s Saturday and as we take another stride into March, we in the northeast are drawing ever closer to spring as we have experienced temperatures in the 50’s and 60’s over the last few days.  But this morning a winter chill of 29 degrees is reminding us that its not spring just yet.    

But today’s high is expected to be 40 degrees and anything above freezing is all right in my book.  Winter may not go away without a surprise appearance of snow before its gone, so I am rejoicing with each passing day knowing that spring is on the horizon and we just have to be patient until we get there.  

I pray that you enjoy today and tomorrow to the fullest, whether that means getting some needed rest, getting some work done, seeking out new sights, or connecting with friends or family. 

Whatever you choose to do this weekend, I encourage you to take a moment to thank the Lord for bringing you here and for the blessing of the good outcomes you experience or for the strength and patience to endure if you are walking through a dark season.      

God’s wisdom, strength, and presence are always available to us. As Psalm 16:11 says:

Psalm 16:11 (NKJV)
11 You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.

So keep walking and talking with God. He will show you the way and allow you to know the joy and pleasures forevermore that come from a life lived in harmony with Him.


This morning’s meditation verse is:

Hebrews 10:25 (NKJV)
25 not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.

Today’s verse is rather appropriate for the weekend.  This verse is encouraging us not to forsake “the assembling of ourselves together” which means not to forsake the corporate gatherings of believers. For us that mostly means “going to church”. 

While someone can be a “saved” Christian without going to church, pointed out in this verse with the phrase “as is the manner of some”, the benefits of membership and participation of a church should encourage us to be committed to go to church regularly. 

The benefits include:

·       Hearing the Word of God preached, along with the Pastor’s insights and recommendations for application

·       Enjoying a sense of community

·       Having the ability to establish and foster friendships with like minded Christians

·       Having opportunities to serve the church

·       Being able to support and encourage fellow Christians

·       Being able to worship the Lord with others in song

·       Being able to pray with others

·       Having opportunities to learn and grow

Obviously, there are many benefits for “going to church” but I would also like to point out that our faith isn’t just a weekly observance.  We should also take advantage of other opportunities for assembling together: such as small groups, bible studies, classes, conferences, and other church events,  

Often, we can feel disconnected from people even when we are at a church service. The way we can move past that is by participating in other gatherings where we can express ourselves individually and get to know the people in our church.

Our faith is supposed to be a lifestyle and part of that should be drawing closer to the people that hold the same beliefs and becoming friends with those that we will be spending eternity with.  

I understand that during Covid-19 we all have the right to keep ourselves and our families safe by limiting our exposure in public by avoiding large gatherings.  So for any choosing to do that, please don’t take this post as condemnation.  We look forward to your return to church when you feel confident in your safety. 

I invite all to where I always share insights from prominent Christian counselors to assist my brothers and sisters in Christ with their walk. 


Today we will share from Dr. June Hunt’s Biblical Counseling Keys on “Anger: Facing the Fire Within”

As always, I share this information for educational purposes and encourage all to purchase Dr. Hunt’s books for your own private study and to support her work:

K. How to Answer Common Questions about Anger

Ropes and ladders... axes and saws... are among the tools used by firefighters to rescue people, to free them from the bondage of burning buildings and the threat of being unable to escape. Firefighters are thoroughly trained in the area of rescue operations and through experience have come to know what tools are needed for what situation, all with the goal of helping others.

Likewise, turn your experiences with anger into a blessing, helping others understand they're not alone in their struggles... instilling hope that they, too, can be set free from raging anger. As you learn to face the fiery anger within and learn to act rather than react. God will not only use your anger to accomplish His purposes, but you will also be in a position to offer help and hope to others.

The questions below will help prepare you to give biblical answers to those who live in bondage to anger and who come to you for help and hope....

"Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect." (1 Peter 3:15)

Anger and Self-Control

Question: "What should I do when I feel my anger getting out of control?"

Answer: Whenever you feel reason and self-control are giving way to irrational and unbridled behavior, put on the brakes and call a truce in order to take time out. Unless you do something to intervene in the process, the direction of the conversation will not change but will only escalate.

Stop and take a deep breath....

  • Hold up your hands to indicate you are "surrendering" for the time being by calling a halt to what is taking place.
  • State slowly in a low tone of voice (remember, "slow and low") that either you are getting too upset to think clearly or that the conversation is not going in a positive direction and does not seem to be resolving anything.
  • Explain that you need to calm down and regain a cool head. Then take a walk around the block, retreat to a quiet place to listen to music, take a shower, or do whatever helps you regain your composure.
  • Agree on a time to resume the conversation once you have regained your composure and have processed what has been said.

If you reach an impasse where agreement between the two of you is not possible...

  • Agree to have different opinions on the subject, but refuse to let those differences become a problem in the relationship.
  • Remember, if two people agree on everything all the time, their relationship runs the high risk of becoming stagnant and void of growth.
  • Decide to engage in stimulating conversations where varied opinions are expressed in order to develop listening skills, to learn from others, to think through your own opinions, and to practice expressing those opinions to others in a clear and concise (non-offensive) manner.
  • Commit to valuing, accepting, and respecting each other as you grow in your understanding of one another...."A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.... Accept him whose faith is weak, without passing judgment on disputable matters" (Proverbs 18:2; Romans 14:1).

Anger and Workplace Threats of Violence

Question: "One of my coworkers has threatened to harm me. What should I do?"

Answer: Some angry people lose control of their anger and cause property damage and/or personal physical harm. In extreme cases, some even murder those with whom they work. This is why you must...

  • Always take all threats of violence seriously.
    • —Assume that if someone makes a threat, the person intends to carry it out.
    • —Most people who commit violent acts at work have given a clear indication of their intent prior to taking action.
    • —Develop a proactive plan to defuse the situation.
  • Always report any threat.
    • —Report the threat to your supervisor.
    • —Report the threat to a security officer.
    • —Report the threat to the police if it is serious enough.
  • Always proceed wisely and cautiously when threatened.
    • —Consult your company's policy manual regarding the Code of Conduct.
    • —Inform the angry person of the consequences of making threats.
    • —Request mediation with a trained company mediator. Remember..."A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it" (Proverbs 22:3).

Anger and Road Rage

Question: "How can I overcome road rage? I get so angry at other drivers!"

Answer: As drivers, we all have had someone cut in front of us, yell profanity at us, make obscene gestures toward us, or intentionally bump us. Whatever the situation, the moment you feel agitated, remove yourself from being in close proximity to the person and rehearse the truth in your mind....

  • "I don't have to become angry. I know God will work this for my good as I keep my focus on Him."
  • "I refuse to let someone else control my emotions. Lord, I surrender my emotions to Your control."
  • "I choose to sing praises to God because He is in control, and I can remain calm and cool-headed."
  • "Lord, I don't know what is wrong with this person, but I pray You will make Your presence known in this situation."
  • "Lord, this person has a problem. I'm not going to let that problem become my problem. I choose instead to thank You for the gift of Your peace and provision."
  • "I will stay calm in the strength of Christ. Thank You, Jesus, for Your Spirit within me, giving me everything I need....""I can do everything through him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:13).

Anger and Forgiveness

Question: "I was severely wronged by someone I once trusted. People want me to forgive... but how can I ignore my anger and let this person off the hook?"

Answer: Picture a meat hook hanging around your neck and lying against your chest. Attached to the end of it is a burlap bag containing both your offender and all the pain this person has caused you. Do you really want to carry that person and all that pain with you for the rest of your life?

  • The Lord wants you to take the anger and pain from the past and release it into His hands.
  • Then He wants you to take the one who offended you off of your "emotional meat hook" and place him onto God's hook. You can forgive him without trusting him. Forgiveness is given; trust is earned. Extending forgiveness is based on your choice to be obedient to God and to release your anger to Him. Extending trust is based on another person's trustworthiness. Forgive everyone, but trust only the trustworthy. The Lord knows how to deal justly and effectively with all those who bring pain into your life. He says..."It is mine to avenge; I will repay" (Romans 12:19).

Forgiveness Prayer

"Lord Jesus, thank You for caring about how much my heart has been hurt.

You know the pain I have felt because of (list every offense).

Right now I release all that pain into Your hands.

Thank You, Jesus, for dying on the cross for me and extending Your forgiveness to me.

As an act of my will, I choose to forgive (name).

Right now, I move (name) off of my emotional hook onto Your hook.

I refuse all thoughts of revenge.

I trust that in Your time and in Your way You will deal with my offender as You see fit.

And Lord, thank You for giving me Your power to forgive so that I can be set free.

In Your holy name I pray. Amen."

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 Encouragement for the Path of Christian Discipleship