Showing posts with label Anger. Show all posts
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Friday, October 22, 2021

Knowing Him in Truth - Thank the Father It’s Friday - - Purity 556

Knowing Him in Truth  - Thank the Father It’s Friday -  - Purity 556

Purity 5565 10/22/2021   Purity 556 Podcast

Good morning

Today’s photo of Mum’s back yard comes to us from who a friend who recently visited their mother’s home and some surrounding areas to enjoy the blessings of the season and the company of the woman who brought them into this world and raised them to have a compassionate heart that extends beyond their human friends to exotic members of the animal kingdom as their profession as a zookeeper requires love and patience to calm animals that naturally are wild at heart.  

I just love the explosion of Autumn colors that my friend captured here, and it makes me want to say: “Orange you glad its Friday!”  Okay I guess I couldn’t resist that “Dad” Joke, but it is my desire to wish all of my friends a Happy Friday and to encourage them to thank their heavenly Father for the last day of the work week and for all that He is and for all that He has done. 

Last night, in the Freedom in Christ class we shared the “My Father God” resource that teaches us to renounce the lies that we may have believed about God and to choose to believe the truth about who God really is, that is revealed in the word of God, and in our experience as we choose to seek Him and His ways and get to know Him more.  

I share that resource here today and encourage you to read through it and to really renounce the lies you may have believed about God and to embrace these truths about your Heavenly Father:  

My Father God


I renounce the lie that You, Father God, are distant and uninterested in me.

I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, are always personally present with me, have plans to give me a hope and a future, and have prepared works in advance specifically for me to do. (Psalm 139:1-18; Matthew 28:20, Jeremiah 29:11, Ephesians 2:10).

I renounce the lie that You, Father God, are insensitive and don't know me or care for me.

I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, are kind and compassionate and know every single thing about me. (Psalm 103:8-14;  1 John 3:1-3; Hebrews 4:12-13).

I renounced the lie that You, Father God, are stern and have placed unrealistic expectations on me.

I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, have accepted me and are joyfully supportive of me. (Romans 5:8-11; 15:17).

I renounce the lie that You, Father God, are passive and cold toward me.

I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, are warm and affectionate toward me. (Isaiah 40:11; Hosea 11:3-4).

I renounce the lie that You, Father God, are absent or too busy for me.

I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, are always present and eager to be with me and enable me to be all that You created me to be. (Phil 1:6; Hebrews 13:5).

I renounced the lie that you, Father God, are impatient or angry with me or have rejected me.

I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, are patient and slow to anger, and that when You discipline me, it is a proof of Your love, and not rejection. (Ex 34:6; Romans 2:4; Hebrews 12:5-11).

I renounce the lie that You, Father God, have been mean, cruel, or abusive to me.

I choose to believe the truth that Satan is mean, cruel, and abusive, but You, Father God, are loving, gentle, and protective. (Ps 18:2; Matt 11:28-30; Eph 6:10-18).

I renounce the lie that You, Father God, are denying me the pleasures of life.

I choose to believe the truth that you, Father God, are the author of life and will lead me into love, joy, and peace when I choose to be filled with Your Spirit. (Lam 3:22- 23;    Gal 5:22-24).

I renounce the lie that You, Father God, are trying to control and manipulate me.

I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, set me free and gave me the freedom to make choices and grow in Your grace. (Gal 5:1; Heb 4:15-16).

I renounce the lie that You, Father God, have condemned me and no longer forgive me.

I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, have forgiven all my sins and will never use them against me in the future. (Jeremiah 31: 31- 34; Romans 8:1).

I renounce the lie that You, Father God, reject me when I fail to live a perfect or sinless life.

I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, are patient toward me and cleanse me when I fail. (Proverbs 24:16; 1 John 1:7- 2:2).

 I AM THE APPLE OF YOUR EYE! (Deuteronomy 32:9-10).  

If you realize that you have had a faulty understanding of God, reading this list out loud every day for six weeks or so can dramatically help heal your emotional pain.

I hope that reading this list has drawn you closer to God and I hope that you have a great Friday and a wonderful weekend.   Keep walking and talking with God because He loves you, wants what’s best for you, and will show you the way you should go if you choose to seek His wisdom and follow His ways.

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Today’s Bible verse is drawn from “The NLT Bible Promise Book for Men”.  

This morning’s meditation verse is:

Proverbs 19:11 (NLT2)
11  Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs.

Today’s verse teaches us a core concept that increases our ability to control our anger.

Proverb 19:11 clearly teaches us that it is sensible to control our tempers and that we can earn respect by overlooking wrongs.  And it is indicative that the ability to control our tempers is tied to the ability to overlook wrongs.  

Now when we look at scripture we should know that God’s wisdom is all inclusive, meaning that it is consistent with His various attributes of being good, forgiving, all knowing, just, and loving.   So when proverbs tells us to “overlook wrongs” we should understand that we are not to ignore wrongs or excuse them necessarily but that our tempers can be controlled by forgiving them.  

The process of “overlooking wrongs” has to be done with God’s wisdom. Some wrongs cannot be overlooked immediately and need to be prevented or corrected. God doesn’t ask us to let people walk all over us necessarily or to do evil deeds and let them go unchecked.  

God’s forgiveness comes to those who repent but God is also merciful to those who don’t deserve it, like all of us, so while we should stand for righteousness and resist evil  we have to be wise in our walk of faith by being discerning and not becoming bitter towards others because they sin against us.  

Christ instructed us to love our enemies.  That’s a dynamic that we fail to understand and really requires us to forgive and “overlook wrongs”.  So we have to draw close to God and use His guidance so we are “sensible” and can control our tempers.  

Learning which battles we should fight, what offenses we can overlook, and how we should respond in different scenarios all comes from knowing what God would have us do and applying His wisdom to our lives but at the same time we should also understand that we are to share God’s love with those around us.   

So examine your emotions in light of God’s wisdom and will for your life and realize that God’s greatest desire is for people to come to Him and that as representatives of His kingdom we have to walk in a way that will show His righteousness, wisdom, love, justice, and compassion.  

It’s easier said than done of course, but Christ overlooked the wrong of being hung on a cross and if He can do that because of His love for us, we can do the same regarding wrongs done against us for the love of Him.


As always, I invite all to go to where I always share insights from prominent Christian counselors to assist my brothers and sisters in Christ with their walk. 

Today we continue sharing from June Hunt’s Dating: Secrets to Great Relating When Dating  

As always, I share this information for educational purposes and encourage all to purchase June Hunt’s books for your own private study and to support her work. If you need this title you can find it online at several sites for less than $5.00:

B. What Addictive Patterns Are Mistaken for Love?

Vanessa grows up in an abusive home with an angry, alcoholic father and a codependent, enabling mother. She escapes the reality of her world into the fantasy realm of romance novels and movies where she superimposes herself at the center of every story. The hero always saves her...and the story always ends with living happily ever after—for her.

But in real life, that's not what Vanessa experiences. She lacks a healthy self-image and the emotional maturity to realize that the attention she receives isn't love. Regardless, she soaks it up like a thirsty sponge.

Soon classmates clamor for dates with Vanessa because she never says no. She keeps searching for her hero and goes out with one boy after another. Addicted to the euphoria of the early elements of romance, her dates label her as "easy," but she truly is easy prey. She doesn't know how to say, no, and there's no real hero on her horizon.

Her dates have no interest in her as a's all about them and what they can take from her. How much different her life could have been had she looked to the Lord for the deepest desires of her heart. The Bible says...

"Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart." (Psalm 37:4)

Love's Mistaken Identities

Most might associate addictive behavior with drugs or alcohol, but relationship addictions are just as prevalent...and just as destructive. Three of these addictions include romance, relationships, and sex addictions.

The plight of these love addicts would seem without solution were it not for the Lord, who is the only true Savior, the One who loves them unconditionally and eternally. The Bible gives this assurance...

"I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness." (Jeremiah 31:3)

  • Relationship Addiction (Codependency)
    • Codependent people today are those who are dependent on another person to the point of being controlled or manipulated by that person.
    • Codependency became the word that describes the dysfunctional behavior of family members seeking to adapt to the destructive behavior of the alcoholic.
    • Codependency is a relationship addiction. Just as the alcoholic is dependent on alcohol, the codependent is dependent on being needed by the alcoholic...or on being needed by someone who is problematic. Today, a codependent is anyone who is dependent on trying to help someone to the point of being controlled or manipulated by that person.
    • Codependent "enablers" enable addicts or dysfunctional people in their lives to continue with their addictions without drawing and maintaining boundaries. Codependency can be compared to the sin of depending on false gods that are powerless to help or depending on a broken water well that won't hold water. It simply won't work!
  • Romance Addiction
    • A "love" addiction in which you feel your identity is in another person (A weak "love addict" is emotionally dependent on someone considered "strong")
    • A "savior" addiction in which you feel your identity is in your ability to meet the needs of another person (A strong "savior" needs to be needed by someone considered "weak")

We learn in Jeremiah...

"My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water." (Jeremiah 2:13)

  • Sex Addiction (Impact of Pornography)
    If only every addict would heed the words in the very first book of the Bible.... "If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it" (Genesis 4:7).
    • Pornography is the depiction of erotic activity for the purpose of arousing sexual, lustful excitement.
    • Pornography debases sexuality and ridicules Christian values in favor of lust and immorality.
    • Pornography attempts to arouse indiscriminate sexual lust and devalues the human body, which God designed specifically for intimacy in marriage and for procreation.
      Jesus said..."You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:27-28).
  • Sexual Abuse/Incest Victims
    Children cannot change their parents; however, they can change their powerless responses in adulthood—choosing not to stay powerless. If you were abused as a child, your challenge—along with that of every victim—is to move from victim to victor... from sufferer to survivor... from emotionally overwhelmed to overcomer. By giving our lives to the Lord, we can experience Jesus' power to be an overcomer....
    "In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world" (John 16:33).


  • —Continue to feel like victims into adulthood, living with a "victim mentality"—still feeling powerless and therefore acting powerless
  • —Relive their past by moving from one abusive relationship to another
  • —Live in denial and refuse to face the dark, hidden secret of the past
  • —Possess no knowledge of how to find help and healing...having little hope of receiving either


  • —Realize the need for facing the past in order to heal from the past
  • —Work hard to identify and resolve false guilt, shame, anger, and unforgiveness
  • —Honestly deal with debilitating issues such as personal sin and repentance, loneliness, and grief
  • —Commit to gaining mental, emotional, psychological, and spiritual healing


  • —Live victoriously over the past—no longer in bondage to painful memories
  • —Develop an intimate relationship with Christ, giving Him control
  • —Grow in self-worth and the capacity to experience authentic love and intimacy with others
  • —Experience the desire and reality of reaching out and ministering to others

The Bible reveals this hope for victory...

"In all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us." (Romans 8:37)

Emotionally Stuck Victims

Question: "Why do many victims seem emotionally stuck?"

Answer: Abused children become developmentally delayed—emotionally. The abuse interrupts their ability to progress to the next stage of growth. It takes some degree of normalcy, safety, and a healthy home environment for developmental stages to be reached, goals to be met, and maturing to occur.

After the abuse is successfully processed, emotional healing takes place and developmental goals can be accomplished. Until this happens, victims can remain emotionally stuck, responding to life as children rather than adults. The ultimate aim is to experience lasting healing—to move from being a victim to being a victor—and to be able to say...

"Lord my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me." (Psalm 30:2)

Sexual Desire Vs. Lust

Question: "At what point does normal sexual desire turn into lust?"

Answer: It is natural to be attracted to someone, but unnatural to sexualize a person. When your mind moves from normal consuming passion to do a sexually impure act, then you experience lust. The Bible warns..."People are slaves to whatever has mastered them" (2 Peter 2:19).

Is your sexual activity...

  • Secretive............................not within normal cultural boundaries and filled with guilt and shame?
    • —Living a double life
  • Hollow................................not a relationship with a spouse, but a relationship with sexual passion?
    • —Prioritizing sexual passion over people
  • Abusive...............................not uplifting to yourself or to others, but degrading to both?
    • —Exploiting others and debasing yourself
  • Mood-altering...................not facing difficult feelings, but seeking an emotional quick fix?
    • —Using sexual passion for comfort or to avoid working through painful emotions
  • Essential............................suggesting that you cannot live without sexual passion?
    • —Convincing yourself that sex is the most important thing in life The Bible says...

"Do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires." (Romans 6:12)


Question: "What is wrong with people depending on people?"

Answer: We should have a healthy interdependence on others in the sense that we value and enjoy each other and love and learn from each other, but we should not be totally dependent on each other. Essentially, an interdependent relationship involves a healthy, mutual give-and-take where neither person looks to the other to meet each and every need.

Many people, however, have a misplaced dependence on others. These relationships are not healthy, for God intends for us to live in total dependence on Him. Over and over, the Bible portrays how godly people learn to have a strong dependence on the Lord rather than a weak dependence on each other. The apostle Paul said we should...

"... not rely on ourselves but on God..." (2 Corinthians 1:9)

Needing to Be Needed

Question: "I know I should date a woman who is secure and confident, but why am I attracted to women who are needy and insecure?"

Answer: You want to be a knight in shining armor and rescue a damsel in distress. But once you have rescued her and she goes on with her life, she will likely not value you as a person—only as a rescuer. Be wanted because of who you are, not because of someone's emotional unhealthiness.

  • Someone who is emotionally healthy will love you out of personal strength and will be able to accept you unconditionally, offering you security in the relationship.
  • Someone who is emotionally needy is typically self-focused and limited in sensitivity to the needs of others. Emotionally needy people are more often "takers" rather than "givers" in relationships and "use people up" emotionally.

Seek someone with emotional maturity and spiritual wisdom, someone who can help you grow more and more in your relationship with the Lord. Follow this biblical instruction...

"Walk with the wise and become wise." (Proverbs 13:20)

Biblical Counseling Keys: Dating: Secrets to Great Relating When Dating.

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Friday, October 15, 2021

Angry? – Doesn’t “It Take Two to Make a Thing Go Right"? - Purity 550

 Angry? – Doesn’t “It Take Two to Make a Thing Go Right?” - Purity 550 

Purity 550 10/15/2021   Purity 550 Podcast

Good morning

Today’s photo of Cave Run Lake in Salt Lick Kentucky comes to us from a friend who retired and left the Empire State behind but who still enjoys going out to see, and who likes to share, the wonders of God’s creation and the peaceful easy felling that one can experience in the stillness that God makes available to those who seek it.   My friend shared two photos from their visit to Cave Run Lake and while both were of the same scene they each had their own appeal, and I was challenged to decide which one to share. So don’t be surprised if we should suddenly visit Cave Run Lake again in the days ahead to show the photo not seen, but I decided to share this one because of the reflection of the sun in the water and I like that little “bansai-esque” tree/bush that is in the left foreground near the lake’s shore.  Little things can mean a lot I guess and sometimes it’s the small details in the big picture that make us feel a sense of peace and wonder that reminds us that we are not alone.

Yesterday, I shared a testimony of a friend’s simple encouragement and how it motivated me to choose to an activity that would lead to delayed peace and contribute to one of my goals rather than taking some free time and using it for purposeless self-indulgence that would give some immediate relaxation but would leave things undone and possibly create a future crisis.   In examining that friendly advice and the implications we could draw from it; I discussed the effect that “enablers” could have on our lives and how they could knowingly or unknowingly contribute to our worst tendencies and keep us locked in reactive patterns that would hinder attaining our goals.  The discourse apparently struck a chord with one FB friend because I got an “angry” face emoji response!

Now I have not interviewed the friend, but I know some of their life history and I know they were in at least one relationship that could have been described as codependent because it was marked by episodes of peace and harmony and episodes of anger and strife as addiction was a central theme to their relationship. 

So while my friend could have felt moved to “angry face” emoji my post because they didn’t like the photo of the day, I am assuming that my descriptions of how “enablers” cause us harm while claiming to love us, stirred up some old memories of those “good old – bad old days” for my friend or caused them to be “angry” for me after hearing about how I too had suffered in relationships with enablers. 

In this culture of fear of causing offense, I could have been filled with worry that I had offended my friend, but when you know the person and their story, you can see that the “anger” they are responding with isn’t directed at you and isn’t necessarily a “bad thing”.  

I’m guessing of course, but my friend wasn’t angry at me. They were angry at the pain and suffering that people can put each other through.  

While we can be angry and wonder why “people” have to be this way. I would point out that the fault doesn’t necessarily lie with just one side of a codependent relationship.  

The problem with the addictive/codependent relationship is that one party or both parties, are addicted to a substance or activity and the other, or both parties, are “addicted” to the other person.    

One party is seeking pleasure in a thing and the other person is seeking pleasure in a person. If you can’t see it, they are both wrong.   A study of the scriptures and an examination of the factors at play here would indicate that they are both “worshipping idols” instead of God.    That’s why even though a new covenant was being established with the incarnation and earthly ministry of Jesus,  Christ reminded His disciples that the first commandment was still to “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind”.  

So any relationship between two people, no matter how troubled or peaceful, can only be truly peaceful when both parties are seeking to honor Jesus’ great commandment to love God. When God is at the center of a relationships both parties will live according to His guidance and seek to love, honor, and obey one another with the emphasis doing God’s will for their lives which would include loving and serving one another.  In this scenario the love of God can flow in a circle, where the people send their love to the Lord in worship, receive from Him, and express to one another continually.   Instead of being stuck in reactive patterns where there is an imbalance because one party is putting their needs above another, when God is involved the couple’s focus is on serving Him and the other rather than serving themselves individually.

That’s the way it “should be” and my friend’s “angry emoji” reveals that, while they may or may not realize how important our relationship with God is to our personal sense of peace and purpose, they know that the enabler/codependent dysfunctional relationship isn’t “right”. Thoughts about their experiences in a codependent relationship made them angry, or the realization that I had also suffered in a similar situation made them “angry” for me.  

God gave us our emotions to show us that something was not “right”.  Anger shows us that one of our “goals was blocked”.  The “goal that is blocked” by codependency is a peaceful harmonious relationship.  

While Rob Base rapped about how “it takes two to make a thing go right”, his lyrics were rather self-aggrandizing, and he didn’t really tell us much about having a successful personal relationship.  

Unfortunately, because we can’t make someone “do what we want, all the time” or make them “love God to love me”, the goal to have a “happy relationship” is beyond our individual control.  We can only control our side of the fence and be true to the goal of “being the person that God made me to be”. 

So in our pursuits to find a peaceful committed relationship, we should seek a life partner who is committed to seeking the Lord and being the person that God made them to be.

If its’s “too late” and you are in relationship with someone’s whose focus is not on the things or God, your personal goal to be the “person that God wants you to be” becomes even more important.  God wants you to be forgiving and loving. Your partner without God needs that in their life and your commitment to be the person God wants you to be may have a tremendous impact on your partner and cause them to seek the Lord and be changed by Him.

 While I am not advising to stay in an abusive relationship, when we are committed to some one we take the good with the bad and if the love is real we will work together to overcome problems and disagreements to establish a relationship of peace and love that lasts a lifetime.

But when things aren’t right, get “angry” that things are not going according to God’s design, and get help to institute measures of protection and accountability to break the patterns of dysfunction and to establish a relationship of mutual love and respect with God at the center or to find peace by “setting the captives free”. 

God doesn’t want us to suffer in what are supposed to be “love relationships”.  So keep walking and talking with God, He will give you the wisdom and strength to correct all the problems of your life, but you have to take you, or whoever or whatever you are worshipping, off of that pedestal and recognize His way as the way that is right and that He is the only One worthy of worship.  

When you surrender to the Lord, He may ask you to change the way you think and He may ask you to let go of some baggage that you didn’t think you could live without, but even though there may be a period of adjustment, when you walk with the Lord you realize that burdens disappear and the path He sets you on leads to increasing peace, love, and joy.


Today’s Bible verse is drawn from “The NLT Bible Promise Book for Men”.  

This morning’s meditation verse is:

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NLT2)
9  Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed.
10  If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.
11  Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone?
12  A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.

Today’s verse reminds us that we need not be alone in this world and that a companion and friends are a good thing to have for our journey of faith.  

Our loved ones and friend can help us succeed and they can help us in times of trouble. The confines of a committed relationship and the fellowship of the saints offer warmth and protection.    

As I stated above, the important factor of our relationships with one another is the presence of God in them. When all parties are in agreement with the Lord and seeking to do His will for their lives, harmony and peace can be the result. 

Peace with God through faith in Jesus Christ should be the prerequisite for all relationships because it is only when we find the new life that God gives us through our Savior that we can be complete. 

Only the Lord can fill the “God shaped hole” in our lives and when He does we can give all of ourselves to the purpose of loving others and sharing the love of God. To give we must receive. To love we must know what love is.

But today’s verses tell us that we are not just to bask in the love of God by ourselves. We are share the love of God with others.  

I have recently become engaged to be married and these verses today come to us from a book that my fiancĂ© gave me and quite frankly when I saw what verses came next in the book and contemplated the fact that I was going to be reunited with her later today, they really ripped my heart out.  

We have both suffered in our lives and God has brought us together to help each other succeed, to help each other in times of trouble, to keep each other warm, and to love one another. God is at the center of our relationship and while we often praise one another, we invariably remind one another that is the only One worthy to be praised.

So take the love that God has given you and take some time this weekend to share it with your friends, family, other saints, or your life partner.  Two are better than one, but we are only made complete through having faith in the Son.


As always, I invite all to go to where I always share insights from prominent Christian counselors to assist my brothers and sisters in Christ with their walk. 


Today we continue sharing from June Hunt’s Dating: Secrets to Great Relating When Dating  


As always, I share this information for educational purposes and encourage all to purchase June Hunt’s books for your own private study and to support her work. If you need this title you can find it online at several sites for less than $5.00:

B. What Are the Differences Between Worldly Dating and Godly Courtship?

Josh has done both. He has dated and doesn't want to do it again until he's ready for a serious relationship—until he's ready for marriage. After breaking his girlfriend's heart, he decides dating—even so-called Christian dating—isn't for him. Hearts are too fragile and a relationship should be more about how long to make it last and how deep it can go than how far you can get and what you can take from another person.

People think he's crazy, but he's determined to do things God's way. He'd rather work on getting his own life together than mess up someone else's. He finds great joy and fulfillment in living his life to give God glory and serve others. Shifting his focus to pleasing God and blessing others rewards him with true peace and pure joy. Josh discovers the richness of relationships when he prioritizes giving rather than receiving.

"This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another." (1 John 4:10-11)

Worldly Dating vs. Godly Courtship

Worldly Dating

Godly Courtship

• Focuses on finding the "right" person

• Focuses on being the "right" person

• Begins with romantic attraction

• Begins with common values and interests

• Pursues pleasure as the ultimate goal

• Pursues marriage as the ultimate goal

• Driven by feelings and impulses

• Driven by rational, long-term objectives

• Values experience more than maturity

• Values maturity more than experience

• Expects sexual involvement

• Respects sex as sacred; purity is paramount

• Relies only on self

• Relies on wise counsel and accountability

• Discontent without a love interest

• Content with the love of Christ

• Evaluates others in artificial environments

• Learns who others are in real-life situations

• Accepts flirting as a means to an end

• Rejects flirting as a hurtful habit

• Prioritizes pleasing self

• Prioritizes pleasing the Lord

• Relies on relationships to find purpose

• Relies on God to give purpose

• Takes from others out of emptiness

• Gives to others out of spiritual fullness

"Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart." (2 Timothy 2:22)

Biblical Counseling Keys - Biblical Counseling Keys – Biblical Counseling Keys: Dating: Secrets to Great Relating When Dating.

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Encouragement for the Path of Christian Discipleship

Monday, March 15, 2021

Purity 366: Encouragement for the Path of Christian Discipleship

Purity 366 03/15/2021  Purity 366 Podcast

Good morning.

Today’s ocean view comes from a friend who visited Gasparilla Beach in Boca Grande, Florida.  I love the clear blue sky, the blue green water, and even the rocky shore that was captured here.  

As we face a new work week, you may feel like you are headed towards some rocky ground and just want to go back to bed! It’s 18 degrees in my neck of the woods in upstate New York and I can sympathize.

However, I believe Jay E. Adams said, that Jesus didn’t focus on His feelings. He focused on His responsibilities. It’s a pithy statement but its good advice. Our work provides us with the means to provide for our families and is actually a blessing. Many in our country are out of work and desperately looking for the blessing that we disparage.  I pray for those who are out of work to find it.

So yes, the weekend has ended and yes, we must go back to work, but it need not be perceived as drudgery.  Instead of focusing on the rocky ground focus on the benefits of walking over that ground and not only arriving at that beach that lies just beyond but arriving there knowing that you met your responsibilities, provided for your family, and have a blessing that will allow you more fully enjoy your life.      

God has provided you with the ability to work and thus has given you everything you have.  So while at work, share the hope that you have in Christ, if not with your words than through your performance.  Colossians 3:23 says:

Colossians 3:23 (NKJV)
23 And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men,

Remember wherever you work, we all will answer to God someday.  So let go of any negative feelings about work with an attitude of gratitude and by facing the day with the enthusiasm of one who knows that you really have nothing to worry about because the God of all creation loves you and will provide for you in this world and into eternity, 

So keep walking and talking with God. Regardless of what the day holds, we can receive the strength and guidance we need when we remain in His presence. 

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This morning’s meditation verse is:

Hebrews 4:16 (NKJV)
16 Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

Today’s verse really speaks of our relationship with God through our faith in Jesus Christ and how we are given full access to Him because we have been adopted into His royal family.  We have the intimacy of a Father – Child relationship with God now and we can come to Him directly to receive mercy and grace in times of need.  

So we can pray to God the Father Himself.  We need not pray to the Mary or any of the other departed saints to gain God’s ear or favor. Our relationship with our heavenly Father is not like a dysfunctional earthly family where you have to ask the mother or one of your sisters or brothers to make your requests known to the father so you will receive. 

The fear in that earthly dysfunctional family is that if you yourself ask the father for something, he will reject you out of hand or you will not be able to adequately express your needs to gain approval.   The idea is that your “intercessor” – your mother or brother or sister – has a better relationship with the father and they will use their good relationship to help you get what you need.   Unfortunately, earthly families are not perfect, and these scenarios may actually be wise to use. 

However, these intercessory scenarios do not apply to the kingdom of God.  God is no respecter of persons. That’s means that all His redeemed children are on the same level in terms of His love and accessibility.  While we may differ in levels of faith and may receive different gifts and rewards from the Father in eternity, we all have the same access to the Father.  He hears our prayers. 

So if you are praying to Mary or the saints, it’s time to claim your adoption as a son or daughter of the King and boldly approach the throne of grace.   Our walk is not a religion with rules to gain favor. Our walk is an intimate relationship.  God doesn’t want you going through someone else to talk to Him. 

Your heavenly Father has perfect knowledge of you; and He loves you regardless of your performance.  He doesn’t want anything to get in between you and Him and neither should you. 

I invite all to where I always share insights from prominent Christian counselors to assist my brothers and sisters in Christ with their walk. 


Today we will share from Dr. June Hunt’s Biblical Counseling Keys on “Anger: Facing the Fire Within”

As always, I share this information for educational purposes and encourage all to purchase Dr. Hunt’s books for your own private study and to support her work:

L. How to Accept God's Aim for Anger

Forest rangers who care for and protect national parks occasionally say they have to "start a fire to stop a fire." Known as backfires, these fires help deprive the main fire of fuel and better enable forest rangers and firefighters to contain the blaze. At times God works for your good in much the same way. Ephesians 4:26 (ESV) says, "Be angry and do not sin."

God clearly intends for you to experience the emotion of anger and to use it for some positive purpose. For example, He can use your anger to spark your awareness of a blazing spiritual problem that needs to be snuffed out. God often allows fiery trials to test your faith and to develop the perseverance necessary to sustain your faith....

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance." (James 1:2-3)

As you seek to allow God to direct your anger and use it for His purposes, remember...

  • Anger can bring your true feelings to light.
  • Anger can uncover your need to set healthy boundaries.
  • Anger can be used to bring positive change in your life.
  • Anger can be the lens through which you gain insight into your past hurts.
  • Anger can be the spark that encourages healthy, appropriate, honest communication in relationships.
  • Anger can be used by God to convict others of sin.
  • Anger can reveal your inappropriate ways of trying to meet your own needs.
  • Anger can be used by God to motivate others to make responsible decisions.
  • Anger can be the foundation on which forgiveness is built.
  • Anger can help you realize your need for the Lord.

As you allow God to use your anger for good, you will become an example to others and bring praise to God....

"Let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven." (Matthew 5:16)

When you feel angry about an issue if you can, change it—if you can't, release it.

Release it into the hands of your sovereign Savior!

—June Hunt

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