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Monday, May 9, 2022

Winds of Change in Our Families - Purity 726

 

Purity 726 05/09/2022  Purity 726 Podcast

Good morning,

Today’s photo of a bright shining sun and clear blue skies over the waters of the Hudson River comes to us from a friend who captured this shot from the vantage point of the Saugerties lighthouse back on April 28th.   They reported that their visit was a short one because of the gale force winds that were blowing that day but vowed to go again when the weather was right.   

Well, It’s Monday again and the winds of change have blown us through another weekend to find ourselves at the beginning of another work week but as much as things may change there are a few things that will endure through the years and one thing we can always count on. 

One of the things that can remain and endure through the years is our families.  This past weekend every day was about family. Friday, I went to a performance of “Almost Maine” at HVCC because my son Brennan was acting in it.  Saturday, I spent the day at a small gathering my wife hosted for my stepdaughter, Rachel, who is only home from the Marine Corp for a short time before she ships out to Okinawa as part of her three year tour of duty.  And yesterday, my brothers and I all returned to the family homestead in Hudson NY to honor my mom on Mother’s day.  

As much as it was a pleasant weekend and I enjoyed the various aspects of spending time with my family, the visits reminded me of how much things have changed over the years and how the changes don’t seem to be slowing down.  What may seem like the status quo of going through the motions of work, of holidays, and seasons year after year, is really revealed to be the progressive movement of time when we see how the older members of the family age and how the younger generations spring up and mature! It can seem that we blink and suddenly we are old, or the little kids are adults! And with those transitions we also see how we each develop our own identities and start our own families and everyone follows their own paths through life.     

And unfortunately, as we go forward through time and space sometimes those close family relationships become more distant and sometimes the family ties founded by biology or formed through marriage wear thin, break, or are severed by death.  Time and circumstances may prove to fundamentally change our family interactions through the years and that is why I encourage others on the path of Christian Discipleship to do a daily practice of gratitude, to thank the Lord for the things and people in their life, and I also encourage them to be intentional in expressing their appreciation and love for one another. 

The narrative of Friday’s play wasn’t the greatest but there was no way I wasn’t going to see my son perform in it. I love my son and while we may not always see eye to eye I wanted him to know that I am proud of what he is doing and I tried to demonstrate that by showing up, hugging him, and complimenting him for his performance at the end of the show.  

To be honest, I have only met my step daughter, Rachel, one other time, but I married her mother TammyLyn and now am part of her family, so I did my best to join in the festivities Saturday as members of Tammlyn’s family came to the house to let Rachel know that she was loved, supported, and would be missed while she was off serving her country.   

And yesterday, although I inwardly cringe over the idea of Hallmark holidays, there was no way that I wasn’t going to express my love and appreciation for my mom on Mother’s Day.  By going to her place, I also enjoyed the added bonus of seeing my dad, my brothers, and members of their families as we all came out for the same purpose.  Now that I am married with two households and we are older and live away from one another, I don’t see what was once my immediate family very often at all anymore, and it was nice to see that our separate lives haven’t torn us apart as the gathering was friendly and harmonious. 

As we move through this thing called life, it is important to obey the Lord’s command to love one another and with family gatherings things may not always be pleasant as we are all imperfect people and sometimes our gatherings can be seen as obligations rather than opportunities or we can focus on our differences more than what we have in common.  So some of us may have “blown it” when it comes to relationships  yesterday or in the recent past. We may have neglected somebody, taken someone for granted, or failed to be patient and said or done something we have regretted.   

But the good news is today is a new day and the Lord gives us new days to provide us with the opportunity to make a change if we need to. 

Over and above everything and the landscape of our human relationships, our heavenly Father loves us and has revealed Himself in the person of Jesus Christ and in His Holy word to let us know we are loved and in Him have a family that will never be separated from one another and He provides us with forgiveness, love, and wisdom to transform our lives and relationships here on earth.   

When we know the Father is for us, we know that nothing can be against us. And when we walk and talk with Him, He can guide us in the way that is best for our lives. He teaches us to turn from the dark things of this world, He teaches to forgive others or to seek their forgiveness, He teaches us to be patient, to be thankful, and He teaches us to love.  

So as we enter into a new work week, be thankful if your weekend was pleasant and examine it if it wasn’t. Things may not always be perfect when it comes to family but if we follow the advice of our heavenly Father, we can have peace knowing we have His love and that He can help us in the ways we respond and can bless our efforts to be “peacemakers” if we need to be.  

When we are in Christ, we know something that many people don’t. We know the Prince of Peace and we can become skilled His ways and impact the lives of others with His wisdom and with His love. So keep walking and talking with God and keep practicing the simple disciplines that consider His ways and keep us grounded in His presence.

A life walking in the Spirit is one where the fruit of the spirit grows in our lives and is one where the love, peace, joy, goodness, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness, patience, and  self-control can flow out of us and change the atmosphere in our interactions and in our relationships. The love God has given us can be shared and experience by others so be bold and courageous in showing up and letting others know that you appreciate them, and if the opportunity presents itself, let them know that there is a God in heaven who sent Jesus Christ to give us peace and to make us a part of His family forever.    

 

 

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Today’s Bible verse comes to us from “The NLT Bible Promise Book for Men”.

This morning’s meditation verse is:

Psalm 65:5 (NLT2)
5  You faithfully answer our prayers with awesome deeds, O God our savior. You are the hope of everyone on earth, even those who sail on distant seas.

Today’s Bible verse reminds us that God is one who answers our prayers and that He is present and available no matter where our travels will take us.  

That line about “those who sail on distant seas” reminds me of a cruise I took back in 2018 where I was told that no matter where our ship took us over the ocean, we would never be further than 7 miles from land. Of course that was a little bit of nautical humor because, they were referring to that land that was straight down, at the bottom of the ocean!

As pleasant as a cruise can be, when I looked out at the 360 degree view of ocean with no land in sight, I was very aware of the real and present danger that we would be in if our ship should sink.  I have heard a few tales of people lost at sea and know that as pretty as the ocean is, we should make no mistake, the ocean is a killer.  The ocean’s environment is hostile to our lives.   

But since coming to faith in Christ, I don’t fear for my life like I once did and even though I was somewhat on edge when I considered the ocean depths that surrounded me I was comforted by the fact that nothing and no one could separate me from the love of God and that where ever my life would take me, the Lord was always with me.   

Peace is the fruit of the Spirit that we can enjoy continuously when we remember that God is with us and that He hears our prayers.  Our conversation with God, our prayer life, is the means by which we can communicate to the Lord what we need and what we hope for.  While we can’t push God’s hand like a genie in the Bible, our prayers are the way we get to grow in our relationship with God.  To tell the Lord what we want and need and hope for in life is to draw the Lord into the depths of our hearts. To consider Him, and His wisdom and ways, is to know Him more. 

The Lord is sovereign and He controls what happens and as we pray we can see the Lord either work in our lives by answering our prayers as we hope for or we can learn to grow and trust Him and to consider our experience in life and our walk of faith as we are challenged by the prayers requests we make that are not answered like we want.  

God saves us through Jesus Christ, giving us eternal life. So if we are in Christ, we have been given everything we need: eternal life and the power to live by faith.   The particulars will have to work themselves out and our understanding will have to be matured as we go forward but we should never doubt that the Lord is with us and for us. 

He has already given us everything we need and our experiences in our walk of faith will cause us to grow into the people God wants us to be. Our prayers may not always be answered like we hope, but God is always going before us to insure that our way to Him and other good things will be clear. We don’t know what the Lord has in store for us from day to day be we can know that He is moving all things together for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. So make it your purpose to pray, to hope for good things, to love God, and to always trust in Him.

 

As always, I invite all to go to mt4christ.org where I always share insights from prominent Christian theologians and counselors to assist my brothers and sisters in Christ with their walk. 

Today we continue sharing from John Piper’s “Don’t Waste Your Life”.  

As always, I share this information for educational purposes and encourage all to purchase John Pipers’ books for your own private study and to support his work.  This resource is available on many websites for less than $5.00.

6 -The Goal of Life—Gladly Making Others Glad in God

 

It is impossible to risk your life to make others glad in God if you are an unforgiving person. If you are wired to see other people’s faults and failures and offenses, and treat them roughly, you will not take risks for their joy. This wiring—and it is universal in all human beings—must be dismantled. We will not gladly risk to make people glad in God if we hate them, or hold grudges against them, or are repelled by their faults and foibles. We must become forgiving people.

Don’t start raising objections about the hard cases. I am talking about a spirit, not a list of criteria for when we do this or that. Nor am I talking about wimpy grace that can’t rebuke or discipline or fight. The question is, do we lean toward mercy? Do we default to grace? Do we have a forgiving spirit? Without it we will walk away from need and waste our lives.

Forgiveness Is Good Because It Gives Us God

The biblical motive for being a forgiving person may be deeper than being forgiven. It is true to say: The motive for being a forgiving person is that we have been forgiven by God when we did not deserve it. “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32). But the bottom of this motive is not God’s forgiveness, but what God’s forgiveness gives. It gives us God.

Why do we cherish being forgiven by God? There are answers to this question that would dishonor him, because there are benefits from forgiveness that a person may love without loving God. We might say, “I cherish being forgiven by God because I hate the misery of a guilty conscience.” Or “… because I hate the prospect of pain in hell.” Or “… because I want to go to heaven to see my loved ones and have a new body with no sickness.” Where is God in these reasons for cherishing forgiveness? In the best case he is there in all these reasons as the real treasure of life.

If so, then these delights are really ways of cherishing God himself. A free and clean conscience enables us to see more of God and frees us to enjoy him. Escape from hell at the cost of Christ’s blood shows us more of God’s commitment to merciful holiness and his desire for our happiness. The gift of seeing loved ones highlights God’s wonder in creating relationships of love. Getting a new body deepens our identification with the glorified Christ. But if God himself is not there in these gifts—and I fear he is not for many professing Christians—then we do not know what forgiveness is for.

Forgiveness is essentially God’s way of removing the great obstacle to our fellowship with him. By canceling our sin and paying for it with the death of his own Son, God opens the way for us to see him and know him and enjoy him forever. Seeing and savoring him is the goal of forgiveness. Soul-satisfying fellowship with our Father is the aim of the cross. If we love being forgiven for other reasons alone, we are not forgiven, and we will waste our lives.

What, then, is the root motivation for being a forgiving person? “Forgive one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” We are to forgive “as God … forgave” us. God forgave us in such a way that infinite joy in his fellowship becomes ours. God is the goal of forgiveness. He is also the ground and the means of forgiveness. It comes from him; it was accomplished through his Son; and it leads people back to him with their sins cast into the deepest sea. Therefore the motive for being a forgiving person is the joy of being freely and joyfully at home with God. At great cost to himself God gave us what we needed above all things: himself for our enjoyment forever. God’s forgiveness is important for one reason: It gives us God!

What Forgivers Want to Give

Our impulse for being forgiving people is the joy we have in a forgiving God. Not just in being forgiven, but in being given joy in God by being forgiven. If we do not see this and experience this, we will probably turn God-centered motives into a kind of benevolence that tries to do good for man without knowing what the greatest good really is—namely, all-satisfying pleasure in God. But if we experience forgiveness as the free and undeserved gift of joy in God, then we will be carried by this joy, with love, into a world of sin and suffering. Our aim there will be that others, through Jesus Christ, will find forgiveness and everlasting joy in God.

Joy in God overflows in glad-hearted mercy to people, because joy in the merciful God cannot spurn being merciful. You cannot despise becoming what you enjoy about God. Joy in the God who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for undeserving sinners cannot return evil for evil. That joy will love being merciful (Micah 6:8). Joy in the God who is slow to anger cannot coexist with its own impatience. It will fight for the triumph of what it admires in God. Joy in the God who spends eternity showing “the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us” (Ephesians 2:7) delights to be generous and looks for ways to give.[1]

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Join our “Victory over the Darkness”, “The Bondage Breaker”, "Freedom in Christ" series of Discipleship Classes via the mt4christ247 podcast!

at https://mt4christ247.podbean.com, You can also find it on Apple podcasts

(https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mt4christ247s-podcast/id1551615154). The mt4christ247 podcast is also available on Google Podcasts, Amazon Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartradio, and Audible.com. 

These teachings are also available on the MT4Christ247 You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTxjSNstREpuGWuL0bF3U7w/featured

Email me at mt4christ247@gmail.com to receive the class materials, share your progress, and to be encouraged.

My wife, TammyLyn, also offers Christian encouragement via her Facebook Group: Ask, Seek, Knock (https://www.facebook.com/groups/529047851449098 ) and her podcast Ask, Seek, and Knock on Podbean (https://feed.podbean.com/tammalyn78/feed.xml)

Encouragement for the Path of Christian Discipleship



[1] John Piper, Don’t Waste Your Life (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books, 2003), 99–102.

Tuesday, February 22, 2022

Low Maintenance - Travelling in the Spirit – Purity 661

Low Maintenance - Travelling in the Spirit – Purity 661

Purity 661 02/21/2022

Good morning,

Today’s photo of a jet taking off into blue skies over LaGuardia Airport was captured by yours truly Saturday morning as my wife and I were shuttling between terminals as we were preparing for our afternoon flight to Tampa.  

Its Tuesday and as we have entered the midway point of our honeymoon vacation, I am overcome with gratitude this morning as I am simply in awe of how much I love my wife and how much I love what the Lord has done in my life to bring me where I am today and I am not just talking about a third floor hotel room with a view of Tampa Bay. 

As I look at today’s photo, I remember that this was in the early stages of what is TammyLyn and my first experience traveling together and how I contemplated what it would be like. I have travelled with family, friends, and for mission trips in the past and until you get on the road you don’t really know what someone will be like to travel with.   You don’t know if they will be pleasant, angry, nervous, quiet, or loud.  You don’t know if they will be someone who looks on the bright side or if they will be someone who will chronicle and complain about  every step of your journey. You don’t know if they will be “high maintenance” or “low maintenance”.  

With TammyLyn,  I had an idea that she would be easy to travel with because as a teacher and parent she has the kind and patient demeanor of a caregiver, but I didn’t know for sure how she would hold up “on the go”.  

To possibly complicate matters, due to the fact that I had suffered a canceled flight out of Albany once upon a time in the month of February before, I decided to book our flight out of LaGuardia to be further south, or to have more options for flights if the weather didn’t cooperate… so I added a two and a half hour drive to begin our honeymoon journey. If you are traveling, why not to add a mini road trip into the mix?   Nothing like adding a drive through traffic of the highways and streets near NYC before getting on a plane to properly gauge someone’s patience. 

In retrospect, adding a drive might not have been the best idea because although I am the seemingly quiet confident traveler when it comes to airports I am a somewhat volatile driver as I still struggle with being impatient and reactive behind the wheel when I am dealing with traffic and adjusting to GPS directions to unfamiliar locations.  

In airports, I am pretty low maintenance because “this ain’t my first rodeo” and I tend to just keep to myself and occupy myself with music, a book, or my phone while in transit and don’t tend to make any comments to anyone as I don’t feel the need to share my experience with strangers and make “travel buddies”.  But on the road, I can be quite the opposite as I tend to speed and sometimes make quick transitions in traffic when I fail to understand the GPS directions. 

So doing a road trip was questionable because  before I would be able to demonstrate that I am that “calm cool and collected” world traveler at the airport, TammyLyn would get a perfect view of the recovering “road-rager”!  There is no where to hide your worst tendencies when you are travelling, and those habits will rise to the surface when you are under stress.   

Luckily, most of the drive to our LaGuardia parking destination was incident free and if anything TammyLyn got to know me a little more as I used a large portion of the drive to LaGuardia to worship the Lord in song.  If TammyLyn didn’t know how much my heart is set on the Lord or how passionate I can be in worship, she knows now. 

I tell my discipleship students and people I counsel or encourage about the importance of worshipping the Lord in song as part of our spiritual disciplines as disciples of Christ as it can help us bridge the gap of knowing our faith in our heads to knowing it in our hearts, and how worship can be a vehicle that can deliver us to an encounter with the manifest presence of the Holy Spirit.  I stress that the most appropriate thing we can do as Christians is to praise the Lord in song and that when we passionately worship the Lord we can grow in our heart relationship with the Lord and literally encounter His presence.   So if you are going to sing to the Lord, I suggest you let go of your inhibitions, remember who the Lord is, who you are in Christ, and what He has done for you and others, and let ‘er rip! If you are going to sing to the Lord, bring it!

So as we listened to worship music on the Taconic Parkway heading south Saturday, I felt the spirit to worship come over me and I put any inhibitions I had about worshipping in front of TammyLyn aside and I let her rip! I mean I worshipped the Lord like I did as if nobody was there besides me and Him.  TammyLyn got a front row seat to what had only been a private performance for the Lord and if she had any doubts about the sincerity of my teaching on worship before, she certainly doesn’t have them anymore.

Despite making a wrong turm just before our final destination in Queens and getting beeped at a few times, TammyLyn and I made it to Bolt Parking no worse for the wear and were both glad to be on the part of the trip where we would just be shuttled and flown to our destination in Florida.  

We got to the LaGuardia with plenty of time to spare and spent a few hours waiting before we had a short and uneventful flight to Tampa.   TammyLyn’s patient and kind attitude never wavered, and she demonstrated that she was about as low maintenance as you could get as she required no special handling and attend to her own needs and well-being as she was undoubtedly used to doing as a mother to 5 and a teacher to Pre-k students who demanded her focus to be on them more than herself.    

But the “worst” was still in store for us, as we experienced the longest line I have ever seen for a rental car agency that I had ever seen or experienced when we got to Tampa.  Many people abandoned the line and sought other travel means, valuing their freedom more than their non-refundable deposits.  Some tried to book a car from other rental agencies at the airport without luck as they were told there were no available cars at the other companies. Others got on the phone to voice their complaints to Budget Rental’s corporate offices to no avail..  And some made an ongoing commentary about the status of the line and how “this sucked” for the duration of our time in line.   We landed at roughly 5 pm and it was around 9pm when we finally receive our rental car! 

But through it all TammyLyn remained patient and kind and, although I did make the observation that it appeared that the entire operation of dispensing rentals was being handled by a single person,  we joked and supported one another lovingly as we waited to finally get our car.  

After we made a quick run to local Walmart for what turned out to be our dinner and for supplies for the week, we were thrilled to finally lay down and go to bed and awoke with no residual bitterness as we both chose to praise and worship the Lord by streaming our local church service in our hotel room on Sunday.  

TammyLyn has remained patient and kind and low maintenance throughout our trip, and I have repeatedly thanked the Lord for bringing her into my life and having her agree to be my wife.  

Our time together has been wonderful and the joy of it all is only increased as I remember the difficulties I faced in the many years of my life where I wasn’t a Christian and was consumed by my selfish desires and spent the vast majority of my life reacting in continuous cycles of temptation, guilt, shame, anger, anxiety, and depression and dealing with others far less patient and kind than my wife. 

Because of Christ, I am not the man I used to be.  I may still struggle with impatience and less than perfect speech in moments of stress but because of Jesus Christ I am free of the things that used to drive a lot of the dysfunction in my life, and I now find myself in the peace that comes from letting go of pushing my personal agenda and just abiding in my desire to follow and worship the Lord in all things.   

Throughout our travel day, amidst all of the hustle and bustle and disappointments, I took the time to appreciate where I was going, where I had come from, and where I was in each moment. 

In the hours waiting for our flight, I finished rereading Bonhoeffer’s Cost of Discipleship. On the plane I listened to a message by Derek Prince on Following the Call of God, and I spent time in silent prayer and worship as I listened to an eclectic mix of pop and Christian music where I thanked the Lord for all that He had brought me through and provided me with to put me in the middle seat of that plane at 42,000 feet, seated next to my Christian bride.

Even though we were “on the go” and could have been completely focused with the details of our travel and with meeting our personal needs of “self-care” as we were in transition,  I took the time to periodically check in with my Lord to ask for His guidance and protection and to thank Him for the life He had given me.      

Regardless of what plane I get on, or what rental car they assign to me, I travel with the Lord and that journey doesn’t end when we reach our vacation destination or when we get back home. 

So keep walking and talking with God. Become a “low maintenance” traveler by making the decision to “walk in the Spirit” because when you commit yourself to travelling with God, and living according to His ways,  you can experience peace and joy when you travel through life no matter what delays, detours, or obstacles that may come your way.   

 

Today’s Bible verse come to us from “The NLT Bible Promise Book for Men”.

This morning’s meditation verse is:

1 Corinthians 2:14 (NKJV)
14  But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.

Today’s Bible verse speaks of the fact that some people will consider the things of God as foolishness and that they are incapable of knowing them without the Holy Spirit to reveal it to them.  

One of the biggest paradoxes of the Christian faith, has to do with the challenge of balancing the concepts of man’s free will and ability to decide with God’s sovereign will.  Passages like today’s scripture indicate that it is simply impossible for people to come to God without His divine intervention to reveal the truth to us.  

Other passages of scripture detail the Lord’s call on mankind to repent and to turn from their sin and to follow Him by placing our faith in Jesus.  

If the Lord decides who will and who won’t know the truth, why does He call “all men everywhere to repent” (Acts 17:30)?  

While there are whole schools of thought regarding this dynamic to describe the levels of man’s contribution, or his complete lack of contribution, towards His salvation and relationship with God, I try not to get bogged down with theological labels and merely encourage people to seek the Lord and their salvation with fear and trembling.  

In spiritual matters, I echo the sentiment of Alfred Lord Tennyson who said in his epic poem “The Charge of the Light Brigade”, “Theirs not to reason why, Theirs but to do and die”…”  - We all must choose what we “believe” or reason to be true, and live or die with the consequences of our beliefs. 

If we don’t know who God is, the appropriate response is to seek Him.  If we choose not to seek Him and dismiss the biggest question of our existence, we can’t honestly make a charge of wrongdoing to the One who gave us the free will to reject Him.

As creations of God almighty, we are not to question the “fairness” of God’s redemptive plan and muse over why some come to the Lord and others are spiritually blind to the truth of the gospel of Jesus Christ.   

Other than in the remotest parts of the world, the historical figure, and basic facts of who Jesus Christ is supposed to be widely known.  The details about Jesus’ life are available for anyone to read about in the New Testament.  

Now while we could worry about the poor soul of the “ones who never got the chance to know who Jesus is”, Besides the mission field is waiting for those with the call to bring the gospel to the unreached,  we should be more concerned with the vast amounts of people that have access to the knowledge of Jesus Christ but who have turned a deaf ear to His offer of eternal life.  

I was lost in sin and selfishness for most of my life. In light of a tragic loss and the failure to find satisfaction in life, I began searching for truth and to find an answer to the questions of the meaning and purpose to life.  

In my confusion, I had found other answers and could have stayed in the darkness of those decisions, but the Lord was gracious and gave me a message of His love and grace when I was otherwise unreachable. I had shut myself from all considerations of Christianity, but the Lord arranged for me to hear the message to save me.   

Was it my searching that led me to the truth? Was it the Lord alone who revealed the truth to me?   I don’t know! I’m just glad I got saved!

Although I earnestly sought some truth, I had rejected the Lord out of hand.  It was that one gospel message that saved me and altered the course of my life.  I was the natural man, and the things of God were foolishness to me. I could see lots of things, but my heart was hard and my eyes were blind to the gospel until the day I heard of salvation and the forgiveness of sins through faith in Christ alone.    

So while today’s verse may make us think that it isn’t fair that God has to give us a revelation of His truth through the Holy Spirit, we should rejoice that He is willing to save us at all and that He can choose to use us to pass along the truth of His word that could save others.   

So don’t question why some will be lost, instead share the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ in the hopes that the words you share with others may be used by the Holy Spirit to cause them to live!  

Ours is not to question why, ours is but to share the words of the gospel that can cause other men and women to live.

 

As always, I invite all to go to mt4christ.org where I always share insights from prominent Christian theologians and counselors to assist my brothers and sisters in Christ with their walk. 

Today we continue sharing from June Hunt’s Codependency: Balancing an Unbalanced Relationship.

As always, I share this information for educational purposes and encourage all to purchase June Hunt’s  books for your own private study and to support his work.  This resource is available on many websites for less than $5.00.

C. Take the Codependency Checklist Test

Are you unsure about someone who is significant in your life? Is it possible that you are in a relationship that others would call "codependent"? If so, how would you know? Read through the Codependency Checklist and make a check mark by what is applicable to you.

  • Do you struggle with feeling loved; therefore, you look for ways to be needed?
  • Do you want to throw all of your energy into helping someone else?
  • Do you say yes when you really want to say no?
  • Do you feel compelled to take charge of another person's crisis?
  • Do you feel drawn to others who seem to need to be rescued from their problems?
  • Do you have difficulty setting and keeping boundaries?
  • Do you find it difficult to identify and express your true feelings?
  • Do you rely on the other person to make most of the decisions in your relationship?
  • Do you feel lonely, sad, and empty when you are alone?
  • Do you feel threatened when the other person spends time with someone else?
  • Do you think the other person's opinion is more important than your opinion?
  • Do you refrain from speaking in order to keep peace?
  • Do you fear conflict because the other person could abandon you?
  • Do you become defensive about your relationship with the other person?
  • Do you feel "stuck" in the relationship with the other person?
  • Do you feel that you have lost your personal identity in order to "fit into" the other person's world?
  • Do you feel controlled and manipulated by the other person?
  • Do you feel used and taken advantage of by the other person?
  • Do you plan your life around the other person?
  • Do you prioritize your relationship with the other person over your relationship with the Lord?

If you responded with a yes to four or more of these questions, you may be involved in a codependent relationship!

When we find ourselves in unhealthy patterns of relating, we need to change our focus, change our goals, and change what is hindering us from running the race God has planned for us. Our primary focus should be not on a person but on Jesus.

"Let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us." (Hebrews 12:1)

Biblical Counseling Keys: Codependency: Balancing an Unbalanced Relationship.

 

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Join our “Victory over the Darkness”, “The Bondage Breaker”, "Freedom in Christ" series of Discipleship Classes via the mt4christ247 podcast!

at https://mt4christ247.podbean.com, You can also find it on Apple podcasts

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Saturday, November 27, 2021

It’s NOT all about ME? – Finding Center by Looking Up - Purity 587


 

It’s NOT all about ME? – Finding Center by Looking Up - Purity 587

Purity 587 11/27/2021  Purity 587 Podcast

Good morning

Today’s photo of another 2021Thanksgiving Day sunrise comes to us from the Inlet Community Church’s FB page with the warm reminder that it is important to be “thankful to the Lord for the simple things… like a new morning.”  They also shared a portion of scripture to back it up with the word of God indicating that the hope of a new day is God given as the Lord’s “mercies are… new every morning” from Lamentations 3:22-23. 

Today’s Saturday but as I have to work today, I am grounding myself in thankfulness for the small and big things as a remedy to ward of any feelings of discontentment or outrage that “I”, MT Clark has to suffer the injustice of being the victim of circumstance of somehow drawing the short straw of having “MY” Thanksgiving weekend disrupted by work!

Never mind the vast multitudes that had to work on Turkey Day, Black Friday, today and tomorrow, “I”, as in ME, MYSELF, AND I have to WORK, TODAY!

Sure I have I had off Wednesday to compensate for my “end day”, aka having to work Saturday, and I had a wonderful Thanksgiving with some of my future in-laws and a peaceful somewhat lazy Friday yesterday, but TODAY, I HAVE to WORK!!! WHY, OH WHY ME???  

Okay, although I used caps on the blog and may have raised my voice on the podcast for dramatic effect to convey that I was a little miffed at the idea of having to work today, I am happy to report that I rarely get offended and angry at the circumstances in life to this extreme extent any longer.   

Since coming to Christ and discovering the fact that in Christ all the problems of life are adequately put in their proper place, I have learned to manage my experience and filter my perspective with a higher view, most of the times… or eventually.     

I no longer look at life, for long anyway, as an opera singer where everything is about “Me, Me, Me, Me… Me!”  No, when I am flustered by the circumstances of life, by others’ attitudes or actions, or by my own personal failings or errors in judgment (Why do I do that!), I find my peace in the truth of who I am in Christ and the fact that I am accepted, significant, and secure because of Him.   

So when I face disappointments I remind myself that God’s mercies are new every morning, meaning that because I am in relationship with Him because of my faith in Christ, every day is a brand new start and it is built upon the fact that the Lord has blessed me in the past and chosen to give me a new day to rejoice, to share His love, and to work through any present difficulties by leaning on His guidance and strength.  

When we shift our focus off of our personal pain, sufferings, or perceived or real injustices and focus on who we are in Christ and our life giving relationship with the Lord, there is really nothing we can’t endure, walk through, and eventually overcome. 

The term “finding you center” is one used by yoga enthusiasts all over the world and is described as “connecting with your spirit by allow yourself to dwell on your innate goodness. Your center is that intangible place located within your core that is the best you possible.”    

While I would describe the process as “finding your center above” by someone who has not received spiritual life through faith in Christ to really be a “soulish endeavor”,  I will admit that employing simple relaxation techniques and meditating on positive affirmations can result in moments of profound peace and clarity.   

The problem is that “finding YOUR center” is a SELFISH practice that is centered in DECEPTION.  YOUR “innate goodness” doesn’t exist.  While God has written His law upon our hearts and it feels good to do good and “be good”, our sin reveals the true proclivity that we have for depravity and our innate “badness”.  

Meditative practices and exercise can make you feel good while you are doing them. You could be such a faithful practitioner that your life would be one exemplified as one being free of conflict and full of circumstantial peace.   

But if you find peace within and by YOURSELF, you have probably disconnected from others in your life in profound ways by manipulating your emotions or interactions and you have certainly separated yourself from reality and the very real and very personal God that created it.    

The practices of peace that men employ only last while you are practicing and without faith in Christ result in eternity in hell.  

While the Christian faith consists of many practices that the enemy will use and counterfeit such as prayer, meditation, service, and contemplating truths that the Lord put into His creation, it promises peace with God through one means and one mean only: faith in Jesus Christ.  

While other religions and philosophies stress working for peace with God or attaining a godlike status through spiritual attainments that will make you one with the universe (doesn’t that belong to God?), Jesus Christ reconciles men to God because of God’s love for us and through Christ’s perfect life and sacrifice on the cross to pay for our sins.  

While we could manufacture peace in the moment by focusing on the positive and thinking happy thoughts,  the only true happy thought comes from a relationship with God through faith in Christ where you are assured of life’s meaning because of your salvation and coming to find your purpose by being reconciled to the Creator of all things who will sustain you and guide you for all eternity.  

So find the peace that lasts forever by being reconciled to the “Center” and Creator of all things, the Lord God Almighty.  Jesus didn’t come so we could enjoy a day of exchanging presents.   Christ came to reconcile us to God and to give us an eternal life of meaning and purpose that starts the moment we accept Him as Lord and Savior when we receive the indwelling presence of the Holy Spirit and receive spiritual life. From that point forward we can have peace as fruit of the Holy Spirit, a peace that will last forever.

So “center yourself” on the word of God, the truth of who you are in Christ, and on the purpose that God is calling you to.  When you do that it becomes less about “ME” and more about “We” – as you are eternally connect with God who never leaves you or forsakes you and who will continually guide and strengthen you to discover His mercies that are new every day, even on the Saturdays when you will have to work.  


Today’s Bible verse is drawn from “The NLT Bible Promise Book for Men”.  

This morning’s meditation verse is:

1 Peter 5:7 (NLT2)
7  Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.

 

Today’s verse speaks of the care that the Lord has for us and commands us to lay our burdens down at His feet.  

From the time that we are children, we are assured by loving caregivers that “everything is going to be all right.”   More often than not those assurances are true. We somehow avoided suffering from whatever caused us to worry and we somehow survived and may have even felt silly about our anxieties after we had emerged to the other side of whatever we were worried about.  

The care and love that our parents or caregivers provided was fundamental in how we viewed the world. If their assurances of safety worked out to be true we viewed the world as somewhat logical and secure provided you “did everything right.”   

Even Bob Marley assured us that the world could be a happy place when he sang about how “Everything’s Gonna Be Alright.”.  Marley died of cancer, melanoma, in 1977 at the age of 36.  So yikes. 

As well meaning as our loved one’s assurances of safety and security may be, the reality of sudden death and disease can make them liars and cause us to have a more grounded view of how “everything is falling apart” or “everything is dying”.  

While these harsh statements are true, God stands above those realities and has eternal kingdom that is unseen and will eventually manifest in our experience with the return of Jesus Christ.  

“Everything is Gonna Be Alright” for those in relationship with Christ.  Today’s verse is written to Christians specifically.  Christians should give all their worries and cares to God because due to our relationship to Him through faith in Jesus Christ, He cares for us.  

While God loves all of His creation, His care comes to and is completely fulfilled to those who put their faith in Christ.  Christians are assured of their eternal lives of acceptance, significance, and security because of Jesus.  

So as Christians we can give all our worries and cares to God because we know that no matter what we face there is nothing that can separate us from God’s love and His eternal plans of good for us.  

So keep walking and talking with God. Cast your cares and worries on the Lord and be sure to walk into your purpose of declaring the truth of the gospel of Jesus Christ to all you encounter as you go. 

 

As always, I invite all to go to mt4christ.org where I always share insights from prominent Christian counselors to assist my brothers and sisters in Christ with their walk. 

 

Today we continue sharing from June Hunt’s “Evil and Suffering… Why? Is God Fair?

 

As always, I share this information for educational purposes and encourage all to purchase June Hunt’s books for your own private study and to support her work.

D. How You Can Escape Eternal Suffering

Personal suffering throughout eternity can be avoided by understanding and accepting 4 vital truths in God's plan.

4 Points of God's Plan

#1. God's Purpose for You... is Salvation.

  • —What was God's motive in sending Christ to earth? To express His love for you by saving you! The Bible says ...
        "God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him." (John 3:16-17)
  • —What was Jesus' purpose in coming to earth?
    To forgive your sins, to empower you to have victory over sin, and to enable you to live a fulfilled life! Jesus said ...
        "I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full." (John 10:10)

#2. Your Problem... is Sin.

  • —What exactly is sin? Sin is living independently of God's standard—knowing what is right, but choosing what is wrong. The Bible says ...
        "Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn't do it, sins." (James 4:17)
  • —What is the major consequence of sin? Spiritual "death"... eternal separation from God. Scripture states ...
        "Your iniquities [sins] have separated you from your God.... For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." (Isaiah 59:2; Romans 6:23)

#3. God's Provision for You... is the Savior.

  • —Can anything remove the penalty for sin? Yes! Jesus died on the cross to personally pay the penalty for your sins.
        "God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8)
  • —What can keep you from being separated from God? Belief in (entrusting your life to) Jesus Christ as the only way to God the Father. Jesus says ...
        "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." (John 14:6)

#4. Your Part... is Surrender.

  • —Give Christ control of your life—entrusting yourself to Him ...
        "Jesus said to his disciples, 'If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross [die to your own self-rule] and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it. What good will it be for a man if he gains the whole world, yet forfeits his soul?'" (Matthew 16:24-26)
  • —Place your faith in (rely on) Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior and reject your "good works" as a means of earning God's approval ...
        "It is by grace you have been saved, through faithand this not from yourselves, it is the gift of Godnot by works, so that no one can boast." (Ephesians 2:8-9)

The moment you choose to receive Jesus as your Lord and Savior—entrusting your life to Him—He comes to live inside you. Then He gives you His power to live the fulfilled life God has planned for you. If you want to be fully forgiven by God and become the person God created you to be, you can tell Him in a simple, heartfelt prayer like this:

Prayer of Salvation

"God, I want a real relationship with You.
I admit that many times I've chosen to go my own way instead of Your way.
Please forgive me for my sins.
Jesus, thank You for dying on the cross to pay the penalty for my sins.
Come into my life to be my Lord and my Savior.
Change me from the inside out and make me the person
You created me to be.
In Your holy name I pray. Amen."

What Can You Expect Now?

If you sincerely prayed this prayer, look at what God says about you!

"If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17)

Question: "Isn't salvation unfair?"

Answer: Yes and no.

  • On the one hand, salvation is unfair because no one deserves to be saved.
  • On the other hand, salvation is fair because it is offered to everyone without discrimination. Because everyone is guilty of sin, no one is condemned unjustly. Therefore, the only "injustice" is that sinners can be saved at all ...

"Christ died for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God. He was put to death in the body but made alive by the Spirit." (1 Peter 3:18)

 

Question: "If God is really a forgiving God, why doesn't He just forgive everyone?"

Answer: God offers to forgive everyone—but not everyone is willing to receive His offer of forgiveness. Justice requires that a penalty must be paid for our sin, and the penalty for our sin is separation from Him (spiritual death)—"The wages of sin is death" (Romans 6:23).

  • Since Jesus paid this penalty by dying on the cross for sins, all who place their trust in the Lord Jesus Christ receive full forgiveness of their sins.
  • God will not force anyone to receive His forgiveness. Therefore, the choice is up to each of us ...

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9)

 

Question: "If Jesus is God, why did Jesus have to suffer?"

Answer: Jesus is our Deliverer, our Encourager, and our example ...

  • Through His suffering, Jesus made possible your victory over sin and your spiritual healing.
        "He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed." (1 Peter 2:24)
  • Through His suffering, Jesus showed you how to keep from growing weary or losing heart.
        "Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross.... Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart." (Hebrews 12:2-3)
  • Through His suffering, Jesus showed you how to endure unjust treatment and to entrust yourself to God.
        "It is commendable if a man bears up under the pain of unjust suffering because he is conscious of God.... To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps. 'He committed no sin, and no deceit was found in his mouth.' When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly." (1 Peter 2:19, 21-23)

 Biblical Counseling Keys: Evil and Suffering... Why?: Why God? Why?.

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