Knowing Him in Truth - Thank the Father It’s Friday - - Purity 556
Purity 5565 10/22/2021 Purity 556 Podcast
Today’s photo of Mum’s back yard comes to us from who a friend who recently visited their mother’s home and some surrounding areas to enjoy the blessings of the season and the company of the woman who brought them into this world and raised them to have a compassionate heart that extends beyond their human friends to exotic members of the animal kingdom as their profession as a zookeeper requires love and patience to calm animals that naturally are wild at heart.
I just love the explosion of Autumn colors that my friend captured here, and it makes me want to say: “Orange you glad its Friday!” Okay I guess I couldn’t resist that “Dad” Joke, but it is my desire to wish all of my friends a Happy Friday and to encourage them to thank their heavenly Father for the last day of the work week and for all that He is and for all that He has done.
Last night, in the Freedom in Christ class we shared the “My Father God” resource that teaches us to renounce the lies that we may have believed about God and to choose to believe the truth about who God really is, that is revealed in the word of God, and in our experience as we choose to seek Him and His ways and get to know Him more.
I share that resource here today and encourage you to read through it and to really renounce the lies you may have believed about God and to embrace these truths about your Heavenly Father:
My Father God
I renounce the lie that You, Father God, are distant and uninterested in me.
I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, are always personally present with me, have plans to give me a hope and a future, and have prepared works in advance specifically for me to do. (Psalm 139:1-18; Matthew 28:20, Jeremiah 29:11, Ephesians 2:10).
I renounce the lie that You, Father God, are insensitive and don't know me or care for me.
I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, are kind and compassionate and know every single thing about me. (Psalm 103:8-14; 1 John 3:1-3; Hebrews 4:12-13).
I renounced the lie that You, Father God, are stern and have placed unrealistic expectations on me.
I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, have accepted me and are joyfully supportive of me. (Romans 5:8-11; 15:17).
I renounce the lie that You, Father God, are passive and cold toward me.
I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, are warm and affectionate toward me. (Isaiah 40:11; Hosea 11:3-4).
I renounce the lie that You, Father God, are absent or too busy for me.
I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, are always present and eager to be with me and enable me to be all that You created me to be. (Phil 1:6; Hebrews 13:5).
I renounced the lie that you, Father God, are impatient or angry with me or have rejected me.
I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, are patient and slow to anger, and that when You discipline me, it is a proof of Your love, and not rejection. (Ex 34:6; Romans 2:4; Hebrews 12:5-11).
I renounce the lie that You, Father God, have been mean, cruel, or abusive to me.
I choose to believe the truth that Satan is mean, cruel, and abusive, but You, Father God, are loving, gentle, and protective. (Ps 18:2; Matt 11:28-30; Eph 6:10-18).
I renounce the lie that You, Father God, are denying me the pleasures of life.
I choose to believe the truth that you, Father God, are the author of life and will lead me into love, joy, and peace when I choose to be filled with Your Spirit. (Lam 3:22- 23; Gal 5:22-24).
I renounce the lie that You, Father God, are trying to control and manipulate me.
I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, set me free and gave me the freedom to make choices and grow in Your grace. (Gal 5:1; Heb 4:15-16).
I renounce the lie that You, Father God, have condemned me and no longer forgive me.
I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, have forgiven all my sins and will never use them against me in the future. (Jeremiah 31: 31- 34; Romans 8:1).
I renounce the lie that You, Father God, reject me when I fail to live a perfect or sinless life.
I choose to believe the truth that You, Father God, are patient toward me and cleanse me when I fail. (Proverbs 24:16; 1 John 1:7- 2:2).
I AM THE APPLE OF YOUR EYE! (Deuteronomy 32:9-10).
If you realize that you have had a faulty understanding of God, reading this list out loud every day for six weeks or so can dramatically help heal your emotional pain.
I hope that reading this list has drawn you closer to God and I hope that you have a great Friday and a wonderful weekend. Keep walking and talking with God because He loves you, wants what’s best for you, and will show you the way you should go if you choose to seek His wisdom and follow His ways.
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Today’s Bible verse is drawn from “The NLT Bible Promise Book for Men”.
This morning’s meditation verse is:
Proverbs 19:11 (NLT2)
11 Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs.
Today’s verse teaches us a core concept that increases our ability to control our anger.
Proverb 19:11 clearly teaches us that it is sensible to control our tempers and that we can earn respect by overlooking wrongs. And it is indicative that the ability to control our tempers is tied to the ability to overlook wrongs.
Now when we look at scripture we should know that God’s wisdom is all inclusive, meaning that it is consistent with His various attributes of being good, forgiving, all knowing, just, and loving. So when proverbs tells us to “overlook wrongs” we should understand that we are not to ignore wrongs or excuse them necessarily but that our tempers can be controlled by forgiving them.
The process of “overlooking wrongs” has to be done with God’s wisdom. Some wrongs cannot be overlooked immediately and need to be prevented or corrected. God doesn’t ask us to let people walk all over us necessarily or to do evil deeds and let them go unchecked.
God’s forgiveness comes to those who repent but God is also merciful to those who don’t deserve it, like all of us, so while we should stand for righteousness and resist evil we have to be wise in our walk of faith by being discerning and not becoming bitter towards others because they sin against us.
Christ instructed us to love our enemies. That’s a dynamic that we fail to understand and really requires us to forgive and “overlook wrongs”. So we have to draw close to God and use His guidance so we are “sensible” and can control our tempers.
Learning which battles we should fight, what offenses we can overlook, and how we should respond in different scenarios all comes from knowing what God would have us do and applying His wisdom to our lives but at the same time we should also understand that we are to share God’s love with those around us.
So examine your emotions in light of God’s wisdom and will for your life and realize that God’s greatest desire is for people to come to Him and that as representatives of His kingdom we have to walk in a way that will show His righteousness, wisdom, love, justice, and compassion.
It’s easier said than done of course, but Christ overlooked the wrong of being hung on a cross and if He can do that because of His love for us, we can do the same regarding wrongs done against us for the love of Him.
As always, I invite all to go to mt4christ.org where I always share insights from prominent Christian counselors to assist my brothers and sisters in Christ with their walk.
Today we continue sharing from June Hunt’s Dating: Secrets to Great Relating When Dating
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B. What Addictive Patterns Are Mistaken for Love?
Vanessa grows up in an abusive home with an angry, alcoholic father and a codependent, enabling mother. She escapes the reality of her world into the fantasy realm of romance novels and movies where she superimposes herself at the center of every story. The hero always saves her...and the story always ends with living happily ever after—for her.
But in real life, that's not what Vanessa experiences. She lacks a healthy self-image and the emotional maturity to realize that the attention she receives isn't love. Regardless, she soaks it up like a thirsty sponge.
Soon classmates clamor for dates with Vanessa because she never says no. She keeps searching for her hero and goes out with one boy after another. Addicted to the euphoria of the early elements of romance, her dates label her as "easy," but she truly is easy prey. She doesn't know how to say, no, and there's no real hero on her horizon.
Her dates have no interest in her as a person...it's all about them and what they can take from her. How much different her life could have been had she looked to the Lord for the deepest desires of her heart. The Bible says...
"Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart." (Psalm 37:4)
Love's Mistaken Identities
Most might associate addictive behavior with drugs or alcohol, but relationship addictions are just as prevalent...and just as destructive. Three of these addictions include romance, relationships, and sex addictions.
The plight of these love addicts would seem without solution were it not for the Lord, who is the only true Savior, the One who loves them unconditionally and eternally. The Bible gives this assurance...
"I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness." (Jeremiah 31:3)
- Relationship Addiction (Codependency)
- —Codependent people today are those who are dependent on another person to the point of being controlled or manipulated by that person.
- —Codependency became the word that describes the dysfunctional behavior of family members seeking to adapt to the destructive behavior of the alcoholic.
- —Codependency is a relationship addiction. Just as the alcoholic is dependent on alcohol, the codependent is dependent on being needed by the alcoholic...or on being needed by someone who is problematic. Today, a codependent is anyone who is dependent on trying to help someone to the point of being controlled or manipulated by that person.
- —Codependent "enablers" enable addicts or dysfunctional people in their lives to continue with their addictions without drawing and maintaining boundaries. Codependency can be compared to the sin of depending on false gods that are powerless to help or depending on a broken water well that won't hold water. It simply won't work!
- Romance Addiction
- —A "love" addiction in which you feel your identity is in another person (A weak "love addict" is emotionally dependent on someone considered "strong")
- —A "savior" addiction in which you feel your identity is in your ability to meet the needs of another person (A strong "savior" needs to be needed by someone considered "weak")
We learn in Jeremiah...
"My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water." (Jeremiah 2:13)
Addiction (Impact of Pornography)
If only every addict would heed the words in the very first book of the Bible.... "If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it" (Genesis 4:7).
- —Pornography is the depiction of erotic activity for the purpose of arousing sexual, lustful excitement.
- —Pornography debases sexuality and ridicules Christian values in favor of lust and immorality.
attempts to arouse indiscriminate sexual lust and devalues the human
body, which God designed specifically for intimacy in marriage and for
Jesus said..."You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:27-28).
Children cannot change their parents; however, they can change their powerless responses in adulthood—choosing not to stay powerless. If you were abused as a child, your challenge—along with that of every victim—is to move from victim to victor... from sufferer to survivor... from emotionally overwhelmed to overcomer. By giving our lives to the Lord, we can experience Jesus' power to be an overcomer....
"In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world" (John 16:33).
- —Continue to feel like victims into adulthood, living with a "victim mentality"—still feeling powerless and therefore acting powerless
- —Relive their past by moving from one abusive relationship to another
- —Live in denial and refuse to face the dark, hidden secret of the past
- —Possess no knowledge of how to find help and healing...having little hope of receiving either
- —Realize the need for facing the past in order to heal from the past
- —Work hard to identify and resolve false guilt, shame, anger, and unforgiveness
- —Honestly deal with debilitating issues such as personal sin and repentance, loneliness, and grief
- —Commit to gaining mental, emotional, psychological, and spiritual healing
- —Live victoriously over the past—no longer in bondage to painful memories
- —Develop an intimate relationship with Christ, giving Him control
- —Grow in self-worth and the capacity to experience authentic love and intimacy with others
- —Experience the desire and reality of reaching out and ministering to others
The Bible reveals this hope for victory...
"In all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us." (Romans 8:37)
Emotionally Stuck Victims
Question: "Why do many victims seem emotionally stuck?"
Answer: Abused children become developmentally delayed—emotionally. The abuse interrupts their ability to progress to the next stage of growth. It takes some degree of normalcy, safety, and a healthy home environment for developmental stages to be reached, goals to be met, and maturing to occur.
After the abuse is successfully processed, emotional healing takes place and developmental goals can be accomplished. Until this happens, victims can remain emotionally stuck, responding to life as children rather than adults. The ultimate aim is to experience lasting healing—to move from being a victim to being a victor—and to be able to say...
"Lord my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me." (Psalm 30:2)
Sexual Desire Vs. Lust
Question: "At what point does normal sexual desire turn into lust?"
Answer: It is natural to be attracted to someone, but unnatural to sexualize a person. When your mind moves from normal attraction...to consuming passion to do a sexually impure act, then you experience lust. The Bible warns..."People are slaves to whatever has mastered them" (2 Peter 2:19).
Is your sexual activity...
- Secretive............................not within normal cultural boundaries and filled with guilt and shame?
- —Living a double life
- Hollow................................not a relationship with a spouse, but a relationship with sexual passion?
- —Prioritizing sexual passion over people
- Abusive...............................not uplifting to yourself or to others, but degrading to both?
- —Exploiting others and debasing yourself
- Mood-altering...................not facing difficult feelings, but seeking an emotional quick fix?
- —Using sexual passion for comfort or to avoid working through painful emotions
- Essential............................suggesting that you cannot live without sexual passion?
- —Convincing yourself that sex is the most important thing in life The Bible says...
"Do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires." (Romans 6:12)
Question: "What is wrong with people depending on people?"
Answer: We should have a healthy interdependence on others in the sense that we value and enjoy each other and love and learn from each other, but we should not be totally dependent on each other. Essentially, an interdependent relationship involves a healthy, mutual give-and-take where neither person looks to the other to meet each and every need.
Many people, however, have a misplaced dependence on others. These relationships are not healthy, for God intends for us to live in total dependence on Him. Over and over, the Bible portrays how godly people learn to have a strong dependence on the Lord rather than a weak dependence on each other. The apostle Paul said we should...
"... not rely on ourselves but on God..." (2 Corinthians 1:9)
Needing to Be Needed
Question: "I know I should date a woman who is secure and confident, but why am I attracted to women who are needy and insecure?"
Answer: You want to be a knight in shining armor and rescue a damsel in distress. But once you have rescued her and she goes on with her life, she will likely not value you as a person—only as a rescuer. Be wanted because of who you are, not because of someone's emotional unhealthiness.
- Someone who is emotionally healthy will love you out of personal strength and will be able to accept you unconditionally, offering you security in the relationship.
- Someone who is emotionally needy is typically self-focused and limited in sensitivity to the needs of others. Emotionally needy people are more often "takers" rather than "givers" in relationships and "use people up" emotionally.
Seek someone with emotional maturity and spiritual wisdom, someone who can help you grow more and more in your relationship with the Lord. Follow this biblical instruction...
"Walk with the wise and become wise." (Proverbs 13:20)
Biblical Counseling Keys: Dating: Secrets to Great Relating When Dating.
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