Purity 326 01/27/2021
Today’s photo comes from SUNY Oswego as they recently updated their FB profile
cover with this wintery yet bright view of the campus on the shores of Lake Ontario. I love the contrast of cold and brightness
as the scene glistens with snow that is illuminated by the sun as it makes its
way through the heavens.
My turbulent times on campus certainly had their short- and
long-term consequences but I fondly remember those days, now 30 years ago, when
I had my first experiences of raw independence and began my educational journey
with a real desire to expand my horizons and seek that which was best in
This morning’s meditation
Proverbs 13:12 (NKJV)
12 Hope deferred makes the heart sick, But when the desire comes, it is a tree of life.
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What happens when you long to receive a gift, but only
your sister is given a gift? What happens when you long to be held on your
mother's lap, but only your sister is allowed on her lap? What happens when you
long for your mother's love, but only your sister is given her love?
Ask Dorie Van Stone. Dorie would tell you that
repeated rejection is the breeding ground for low self-worth. Her own mother
never even wanted her ... her own mother always called her "ugly."
Dorie never received the love and affection her heart
so deeply craved.
However, what a comfort for Dorie (and for all the
Dories in the world ... both male and female) to come to know this truth ...
"The Lord does not look
at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."
(1 Samuel 16:7)
Why should Dorie feel any sense of worth? Even before she and her
sister were discarded at an orphanage, life with their mother was filled with
rejection. Her mother would leave Dorie in charge of her little sister, Marie,
for hours — a 6-year-old responsible for the total care of a 5-year-old! Each
time, she longed desperately for her mother to return, saying to herself,
"I hope she'll be glad to see me." But each time her mother returned,
she brushed right past Dorie to gather Marie into her arms and give her a great
big hug — sometimes bringing a gift — always showering attention ... attention
never shown to Dorie. No wonder Dorie was left reeling with low self-worth. As
the psalmist said ...
"Scorn has broken my heart and has left me helpless; I looked for
sympathy, but there was none, for comforters, but I found none."
A. What Is Self-Worth?
As a child, Dorie didn't have any concept of "self-worth." How
could she? As a continually rejected child, how could she feel any sense of
significance ... of value ... of worth? Even more basic than that, how do you
determine the worth of something or someone? How do you know your own worth? Do
you look to yourself or others in order to grasp your value? If you look
anywhere other than to God — the God who created you with a purpose and a plan
— your view of your own value is in grave danger of being distorted. Before you
were ever, God established your real worth by knowing you, by choosing you, and
ultimately by dying for you! The Bible says ...
"He chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and
blameless in his sight."
signifies the value, merit, or significance of a person or thing.
is the belief that your life has value and significance.
is a translation of the Greek word axios, which means "of
weight and worth." In biblical times, gold and other precious metals
were placed on a balancing scale where their worth was determined by their
weight, leading to the expression ...
"...worth their weight in gold"
Question: "How can someone's worth be determined?"
Answer: At an auction,
the worth of an item is determined clearly and simply by one thing ... the
highest price paid. Each item goes to the highest bidder. You were bought from
the auction block of sin over 2,000 years ago when the heavenly Father paid the
highest price possible — the life of His Son, Jesus Christ. By that one act,
your worth was forever established by God.
Christ paid the ultimate price for you — willingly dying on the cross — paying
the penalty for your sins. He loves you that much!
true worth is not based on anything you have done or will do, but on
what Jesus has already done. Without a doubt, He established your
worth. ... You were worth His life. ... You were worth dying for.
"This is how God showed his love among us: He
sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This
is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an
atoning sacrifice for our sins"
(1 John 4:9-10).
B. What Is Self-Esteem?
In Dorie's younger years, not one person valued her ... no one found
pleasure in her. Since no one esteemed her, she had no sense of self esteem.
She could easily see which of the other children were treated with value and,
as a result, felt valuable. Her sister was one of these highly favored ones.
What makes you feel good about yourself? Do you consider your opinions
worthy of consideration? Do you expect others to respect your boundaries, or do
you hold yourself in such low esteem that you do not establish and maintain
healthy boundaries — boundaries that line up with God's purpose for your life?
The Bible says ...
"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from
- To esteem
means "to set a high value on."
- To esteem
in Hebrew is sometimes translated from hasab, which means "to
consider, plan, reckon, or think over."
- To have
self-esteem is to respect or have high regard for yourself. ...
"He [Messiah] was despised and rejected. ... and we held him
in low esteem."
Question: "Why do some people prefer not to focus on
self-esteem, but only on self-worth?"
Answer: The word self-esteem actually has two
different meanings that are opposite to each other.
- The first
is an objective regard of your value ... which the Bible refers to
as humility. This self-worth is rooted in the recognition of your
sins and your need for the Savior, recognition of your need to live
dependently on Him, and recognition of the fact that Christ established
your worth by dying for you. ...
are the ones I look on with favor: those who are humble and contrite in spirit,
and who tremble at my word" (Isaiah 66:2).
- The second
kind of self-esteem is an exaggerated regard of your value ...
which the Bible refers to as pride. This self-esteem is rooted in
the idea that you are "good enough" within yourself to meet your
own needs and, therefore, you do not need to live dependently on the
Savior. Your worth is established by your "inherent goodness"
and "personal accomplishments." But the Bible says ...
In the Bible, God presents these two types of "self-esteem" in
sharp contrast to one another. ...
"God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble."
(1 Peter 5:5)
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